Yesterday I helped Greg start a Blog page. For years I have been helping him to “look good” – that’s what we women do. And I got to thinking about this as I could not sleep last night (partly due to the fact that my daughter was “bunking” in with me – she and her fiancee’ spent the night – and she has a horrible, wheezy cold – yeah – enough said) so I was going back over the many years I have been with this Man of mine – 28 years now this year. When I met him – he was really a mess. I had to “fix him up” quite a bit – didn’t even know how to properly dress himself, it was embarrassing. I waited, though – (like a smart woman does) to dispose of all the awful clothes and shoes in his wardrobe until after we were married. He was really much better off without them, anyway. And I have been fixing him up ever since – making him look better – you know the old saying…”Behind every great Man – there’s a woman” Well it’s true. And I took my job seriously for all those years – it’s what we do.
Which brings me to my point: Men are Simple. Even the most complex man still has the same basic needs – and if those are met – you have a happy man. I think a lot of women fall short of knowing what their role is and don’t really realize how great they are and how much influence and “power” they have over the men in their lives. I have talked to so many women lately who just do not “get” this – and it makes me sad. Women today are so willing to give their “power” and “control” over to a man – when they are not even asking for you to do this. It confuses the men. Men love women who know who they are – and women who make them feel like a better man just for being around them. Again – the needs are simple: 1) Admire them – Men love to be thought of as the “Hero”. 2) Feed them – all men love to eat – especially something homemade from you. 3) Physical Love – we all know what that is. Yup that’s it – Men are really Simple if you break it down.
Now that’s not to say that women don’t love men that would do anything for them. All women love men who would “slay the dragon” for them – or “fight in a dual” for them – Aww women love the guy that’s the “Hero” And I tell single gals this all the time – in fact I told my own daughter this before she met her knight in shining armor – If the guy scares away too easily – runs from a conflict or won’t fight for you – you DON’T want him! You know a man is in love with you if he can’t stand to be away from you – and if he can’t be with you – has to be on the phone with you “just to hear your voice” or writing an email to you – just to stay connected. Guys vote with their feet. Which means they are there – like all the time. That’s normal – not in an annoying way – but it’s how they are made. If they are not that way – you don’t want them. Period. They press in – that’s what they do. They won’t let anybody or anything stop them from being with the woman they love. No matter what.
Now that doesn’t mean that marriage doesn’t have it’s ups and downs and rocky patches along the way. If a marriage looks too perfect from the outside – then probably someone is oblivious and the other one is unhappy. We’ve recently been navigating through some rough patches ourselves – no marriage is perfect – because people are flawed. That’s just the reality of living life. But I will have to say that in the midst of it all – here I am still trying to make Greg look good. Only now – it takes two women to do it – Sally Dinius (our dear friend) has built Greg a wedding website and is working on a funeral one too – and I just helped him start a Blog page. You can find both of these on the right side of this page. It takes a lot of work to make a Man look good these days – and a lot of grace and patience – but with Sally’s help – we will get through it.
After all…Men are Simple.