If you were around in the mid-80’s then you will remember Tina Turner singing “What’s love Got to do with it”? Talking about Love – being the wasted emotion. Obviously coming from someones real experience from a “love” gone bad. I mean who wants to get hurt? Not me – that’s for sure. And the writer of the song was pretty much saying that love is okay – but it’s just a second hand emotion – and it’s really better not to get your heart involved at all. Then there’s no danger. Just go through the motions of love – but don’t let anything really touch your heart. Guard it. Protect it. Don’t let anyone in. Sounds good – but we all know that in reality – the joy of love – is the risk of love – because when it’s real and authentic – there’s nothing better – but it does require ALL OF US.
But I submit to you that sadness can also be a wasted emotion. At least the kind of sadness where there is nothing you can do to resolve the emotion. With sadness comes remorse and tears. What I’ve learned about these emotions is that pain and sadness can make you “self absorbed”. There’s nothing like a little pain to make you truly self centered. Who is the sadness affecting? Anyone you know? No. It affects you. There’s nothing positive about sadness – do we all feel it from time to time? Yes. And remorse? Yes. We visit the emotion. We wallow for awhile and “lick our wounds” for a time. Then we MUST not be sad anymore. It is a slow descent into a dark hole. It is a waste of time, energy and life. God cannot speak clearly into a cloudy mind filled with this wasted emotion that would ROB us of all that He wants for us. Tears can be cleansing – so for goodness sake – CRY if you need to and get it out. Then be done. Tears are meant for a time – not for always – and they can give you a really BAD headache – clog up your sinuses and make your face puffy – who needs it?? Not me.
I’ve decided not to be sad anymore. When things affect me in this life – I let them touch me – take what I can from the experience – learn from it – love people – but not stay with the emotion that is negative and can bring me down.
Remember – when we hurt – and are sad and think people KNOW this – often times they do not. If we think we are punishing someone who hurt us – by staying in pain – often times they don’t even know. Who are we hurting? We are hurting ourselves.
I choose to live free from sadness. I choose to do everything I can in life to make my peace with those that touch my life – so I will have no regrets. So God can speak through me. So I can be….free. God knows my heart. God knows your heart. Make it right with Him today. Have no regrets. Be free.
So if you see me sad or in tears – slap me or something – and remind me of this post today. After all…sadness IS a wasted emotion.
I am praying for you