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The Wasted Emotion…

If you were around in the mid-80’s then you will remember Tina Turner singing “What’s love Got to do with it”?  Talking about Love – being the wasted emotion.  Obviously coming from someones real experience from a “love” gone bad.  I mean who wants to get hurt?  Not me – that’s for sure.  And the writer of the song was pretty much saying that love is okay – but it’s just a second hand emotion – and it’s really better not to get your heart involved at all.  Then there’s no danger.  Just go through the motions of love – but don’t let anything really touch your heart.  Guard it.  Protect it.  Don’t let anyone in.  Sounds good – but we all know that in reality – the joy of love – is the risk of love – because when it’s real and authentic – there’s nothing better – but it does require ALL OF US.

But I submit to you that sadness can also be a wasted emotion.  At least the kind of sadness where there is nothing you can do to resolve the emotion.  With sadness comes remorse and tears.  What I’ve learned about these emotions is that pain and sadness can make you “self absorbed”.  There’s nothing like a little pain to make you truly self centered.  Who is the sadness affecting?  Anyone you know?  No.  It affects you.  There’s nothing positive about sadness – do we all feel it from time to time?  Yes.  And remorse?  Yes.  We visit the emotion.  We wallow for awhile and “lick our wounds” for a time.  Then we MUST not be sad anymore.  It is a slow descent into a dark hole.  It is a waste of time, energy and life.  God cannot speak clearly into a cloudy mind filled with this wasted emotion that would ROB us of all that He wants for us.  Tears can be cleansing – so for goodness sake – CRY if you need to and get it out.  Then be done.  Tears are meant for a time – not for always – and they can give you a really BAD headache – clog up your sinuses and make your face puffy – who needs it??  Not me.

I’ve decided not to be sad anymore.  When things affect me in this life – I let them touch me – take what I can from the experience – learn from it – love people – but not stay with the emotion that is negative and can bring me down.

Remember – when we hurt – and are sad and think people KNOW this – often times they do not.  If we think we are punishing someone who hurt us – by staying in pain – often times they don’t even know.  Who are we hurting?  We are hurting ourselves.

I choose to live free from sadness.  I choose to do everything I can in life to make my peace with those that touch my life – so I will have no regrets.  So God can speak through me.  So I can be….free.  God knows my heart.  God knows your heart.  Make it right with Him today.  Have no regrets.  Be free.

So if you see me sad or in tears – slap me or something – and remind me of this post today.  After all…sadness IS a wasted emotion.

I am praying for you

God Bless

Comments on: "The Wasted Emotion…" (6)

  1. Steve Brown said:

    Hi Cindy,
    I am a 40 year old marrried christian who lost his father 2 years ago on christmas day. My mother died when i was 14 and i embarked on the deicevers path for 20 years. No one told me about sin and death. my father was an ex navy man who taught me to say nothing and drink away my problems. Hence i am an ex alcoholic ( substance abuser) who is married to a nice christian woman ( love her lots but has no depth — NOT HER FAULT!!!!!) Thanks for the rant world wide web. Sorry 4 wasting your time…. P.S. God is awesome. your blog was there when i needed it!!!!! JC died 4 us!!!!!

    • I’m so sorry to hear about this, Steve. It’s funny. My husband and I know another Steve Brown – must be a common name – but I knew it was not him – because he is older than you.

      Don’t give up! God is a God of miracles and is in the healing and restoration business for sure. I am a testimony to that – that you can really mess up and God’s love and forgiveness is still there – pursuing and chasing us. I’m so glad for this, aren’t you?

  2. I think I may come from a different school of thought on sadness.

    My thoughts are that sad is okay (of course, we agree that it is only for a season) but I believe that depression, rather, is the wasted state of mind.

    Rejection (or the fear of it) leads to sadness.
    Sadness leads to anger.
    Anger not dealt with leads to depression.
    Depression is when we spiral into self pity and get stuck.

    I believe that we need to be aware and honest about our emotion of sadness when we sense it and then we need to feel it to get through it; otherwise, we stuff it in and it grows into the depression that I mentioned above. But thankfully, Jesus meets us right there at the corner of weep and wallow.

    If you see me being depressed… THEN smack me! 🙂

    • Well I must defer to my dear counselor friend – who really knows her stuff! Yes – I suppose you are right – and that sadness can lead to that “dark hole” of depression. Yes. I’ve been there before too. And it’s not pretty – hard to dig yourself out – once you’re there. It’s better not to visit that place too often – and give in to it – because each time is more difficult to come out of it.

      If you say sadness is okay for a time – then I must agree and will not stuff it anymore – but allow myself to be sad. And you’re right – it is because of rejection or fear of it – that brings sadness.

      We will not waste any emotion on depression – Jesus meets us where we are and is ready to lift us up when we find ourself there.

      Thanks, Deanna – good thoughts!

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