Musings From A Musical Mind

I have been having a “fun” conversation with my friend Stephen this morning on facebook.  The topic eventually developed into guys – and dress suits.  He had a quote on his status that was as follows:

No one has ever had an idea in a dress suit.~ Sir Frederick G. Banting

Well it was fun to banter back and forth on this – me saying – “Okay – no more suits for Greg then”  But in his profession it would be a little difficult to perform any weddings or funerals without one on.  I told Stephen that women think men are attractive in a suit and especially a tux 🙂

Which brings up an interesting point.  What makes a man attractive?  Not just attractive – but more to the point – What makes a man attractive to a woman.  Is it the way they dress?  The way they smell?  The car they drive?  How much money they have?  Awwww it’s a mystery to most men.  It is because women are so different in their likes and dislikes.

But generally speaking.  It doesn’t have much to do with the way a man looks on the outside.  For me a man’s eyes say so much about him.  Are they kind eyes?  Do they sparkle with fun and amusement?  I like a man’s eyes most of all.  You can tell much about a person by their eyes – you know the old “window to the soul”.

I would have to say that it is also confidence.  A man that is sure of himself is really attractive to a woman.  It has little to do with wealth or position.  You often see a very attractive woman with a man that doesn’t seem to “measure up” to her – but she sees something very special in him – that reaches far past the “physical” appearance.

Women have a need to be protected and feel special.  The wise man will fill that need for her – be the “hero” in her life – come riding in on that white horse and “save the day”.  Keep her world safe – not ever want to see her hurting or crying.  Real men DO NOT like women to cry – it makes them feel helpless and just want to punch something – it rips them up inside.  They want to do ANYTHING to stop the pain and hurt.  They want to be that person.

Women love men that are smart – not cocky – shy – childlike – strong – sensitive – warm and caring – adaptable – funny and sweet – full of fun .  And a man that loves his family is to be admired.  If a man loves and treats his Mommy and his sisters or other woman in his life right – you know that he will treat you right too.  There’s nothing like a man who is on the shy side – and doesn’t even know how special he is.  No attitude – no anger – no negativity.  Just simple and childlike.  Positive  – giving and caring.

So does it have anything to do with what they wear?  No.  Or how they wear their hair?  No.  What about how much money they have – or possessions they own?  Doesn’t matter.  A real woman loves a man for what he is – not what he has.

Now dressing up in a suit and tie once in awhile – and a tux for a special occasion – like a wedding – is very special and very sexy to woman 🙂  But the sexiest thing a man can do to be attractive – is to BE HIMSELF.

Below is a beautiful song by Sheena Easton – recorded back in the 80’s – called “When He Shines”.  It describes the qualities of men everywhere and why women love them.  Enjoy!

God Bless

This man’s a child, this man is old
Sometimes he’s mild, sometimes he’s bold
This man I love, sometimes in spite
I wish he would stick to his guns, or abandon the fight

But when he shines, oh when he shines
Yes when he shines, he shines so bright

Sometimes a tramp, sometimes a dude
He changes colour just like a cameleon, can’t find the mood
He is a song that’s not easy to write
He is a moon in the morning, and the sun out at night

But when he shines, when he shines, oh when he shines, he shines so bright

This man’s a gentleman, this man is strong
This temperamental man plays me along
But when he shines, when he shines, oh when he shines, he shines so bright
Yes when he shines, when he shines, oh when he shines, he shines so bright

(Instrumental break)

But when he shines, oh when he shines
Yes when he shines, he shines so bright


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  3. You are so right Cindy! And I remember this song too.

  4. “Real Men” by Joe Jackson?

    But seriousl, I think spiritally has something to do with it (among the ‘right kind’ of women).

    • Yes Stephen – that totally goes without saying. Of course a Christian Woman would want a Christian Man – not just a Christian – but a strong Christian with morals and integrity and principles – so important!!

  5. For me its all about humor! If a guy can’t be sarcastic and keep up(meaning confidence:)) then he can keep walking! Lol but I do agree with you, eyes do say a lot about a man, and usually you can see how authentic he REALLY is when you stare them down. Great entry 🙂 xoxo

    • Thanks, Tayler – I actually forgot to add that about humor – oh wow – it is SO important to me!! If a guy cannot make me laugh – then FORGET IT!!! A stare down??? Great idea!!

  6. You’re right Cindy. A man can LOOK attractive, but when he’s an empty husk he’s not attractive at all. Humor, kindness, loving, are more important. And if he smells good that’s a bonus, LOL

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