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Welcome to “Cindy Land”…

I have a special world in which I live in.  I didn’t know that it was so unique until my dear husband pointed it out to me.  I will say something – or do something and think everyone says or does this – and he will say to me, “that only happens in “Cindy Land”.  Does everyone have a land such as mine?  I’d like to think so.  However – the problem is: no two lands are exactly alike.  No two people think exactly alike.

Here’s what mine looks like:

Everyone is kind

Everyone is peaceful

Everyone had good manners

Everyone has my best interest at heart

Everyone loves me unconditionally (no matter what)

No one is nasty

No one is jealous

No mistake is beyond repair

Every problem has a resolution

No one thinks bad about me

I’m free to express who I am – and others can too – with no judgement

God forgives and so do others

Everyone has “my back”

Where I openly “trust” others and they “trust” me

No one would betray my trust

To this – Greg just laughs and says, “That’s “Cindy Land”.  Now OF COURSE I know that isn’t true – that’s not how life is – I’m not a child for goodness sake – but I would like to think that I kept some of my “child like” innocence and naivety.  Where everyone loves everyone and everyone gets along without bickering, blaming and past hurt.  Where one can have “pure” motives for loving others – and caring and loving them makes everyone better people.  But I know now after living this long – that no matter how much I want something in “my world” – I cannot make it so.

Greg has a “Greg World” too.  His looks much like mine – but he’s way more practical than I am – when it comes to emotion.  He’s a first born so he plays things pretty close to the vest.  His would look something like this:

Everyone is nice to one another

Everyone has a strong work ethic

No one is moody

The moody people live on a special “island” – and only visit “Greg Land” when they are done being “moody”

Everyone has “his back”

Everyone loves unconditionally

No one has an ulterior motive 0r hidden agenda

Everyone leaves something cleaner than when they found it

He has a certain place for “emotion” too.  It’s in a special “drawer” and he only pulls it out when he has too.  Most men are like this.  It’s painful sometimes to open that drawer – so they don’t.  Oh he can remember things from the past – but not like I can.

I am emotionally driven – being female.  It enters into every aspect of my life.  And an emotional trauma can leave me reeling for a very long time.  I can still remember something traumatic that happened to me 30 years ago – a “matter of the heart” so to speak.  And this morning while eating breakfast with Greg – we were discussing “Cindy World” and how my emotions are very close to the surface in times of hurt, happiness and love.  I still cry at things that happened 9 months ago – any loss is a very real grief to me.  Greg would never be able to conjure up that emotion or feeling – at least not in real tears like me.  I cry often.  That’s who I am.

But even though my “land” is different from his – and he may not fully understand how deeply things affect me – he is very kind and thoughtful – giving me freedom to express them without judgement or any hint of amusement.  He truly believes that all these emotions – such as they are – make me what I am.  And he loves that about me.

Greg leads with his head – I lead with my heart.  I am learning to lead with my head too – as I know that the emotions can be fickle – oh they seem real – and they ARE.  But sometimes not the best.  We need to make choices with our head – and then the heart will follow – even in “Cindy Land”.  God gave us men in our world to help us establish the difference between “head and heart” – and though one may seem to be very strong and RIGHT – over time we come to discover that it is the head that MUST rule the heart.

I’ll put out the foot bridge for you – come on over to “Cindy Land” – I’d love to get to know you – and show you around.  It’s a happy, safe place – and you are loved.

God Bless

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Comments on: "Welcome to “Cindy Land”…" (12)

  1. If there is ice cream in Cindy Land, where do I buy the ticket? It sounds like a great place to live. Does it have free wifi?

  2. Hi Cindy:
    I so enjoyed my visit to “Cindy & Greg” Land. It is a delightful place to be and hear honest assessments of our lives. What a privilege to have a mate that you can be honest with and know you still have his respect. This only grows as you get older and enter the beginning of the empty nest syndrome. Then one day you wake up and realize that it is just you and your sweetie … sometimes there’s nothing to talk about but you just know that he’s there and that’s all that matters. Glad to hear the romance is still alive and well. Romance and God are what keeps people together in the good and bad times and of course visits to Cindy Land.

    • Thanks so much Joan – for this wonderful comment!! I know exactly what you mean – we are “almost” empty nesters – so we are alone just the two of us almost all the time now. It is fun to rediscover what made us want to be together “forever” in these years – no marriage is without it’s struggles and period of adjustment. We’ve had a hard last year – but we are now discovering each other again after all these years and without the children – it’s like we are a couple of teenagers again and on our second honeymoon – so all is very well in “Cindy Land” 🙂

  3. Cindy-Land (and also Greg-Land) sounds like a wonderful place Cindy! A bit like Heaven :):)

  4. Well if you’re still “under construction” you can come see me in “Cindy Land” – the foot bridge is always out – and there is never any construction 🙂

  5. I love CindyLand! I visit every day when she posts in her blog!

    It’s a great ideal for the rest of the world to live up to, isn’t it?

  6. I think I like Cindy Land a lot (much better than GraceLand or Never Never Land!)…it’s what makes you unique!
    Unfortunately, I lead more with my heart at times as far as responding to raw feelings or moods – more than I’d like to admit. But I’m working on constructing some new attractions at GregLand that I’m hoping will overcome these…it may take a while, and I’m afraid their construction will last my entire life!

  7. Can I come play in CIndy land?????

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