Yesterday instead of Turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy – and tons of other food – we decided to abstain.
Unheard of, you say?
Well – there was a very good reason. Greg was invited to perform a wedding – and I went with him. It was a very different way to spend Thanksgiving. But we all know that variety is the “spice of life” – so we jumped at the opportunity to be different.
This wedding was very special. The couple had met online – she has a two year old daughter – and they are very much in love and ready to settle down and be a “family”. The bride’s father is a doctor – and the house is situated on the water with a million dollar view of puget sound. A very lovely home for having a wedding.
Our daughter arrived before we did – she styled the bride’s hair – and it was beautiful! We arrived right on time – the traffic was HORRIBLE. But with our coffee in hand we were “happy campers” as we SAT and SAT in traffic. When we got there – everyone was munching on snacks – elegantly laid out in the “great room” below. The high cathedral ceiling and HUGE windows overlooking the water – was very picturesque – and a lovely backdrop for the ceremony. I took many pictures – I posted a few below.
After the ceremony – everyone remarked to Greg that they appreciated him being so authentic and real – in telling the couple how it really is – not “sugar coating” it. People need to hear this today – and we all know the statistics – one out of every two marriages will fail – it is important to do everything you can when you start out – to make sure you understand there are going to be good times – and bad times. And at some point you may not “feel it” anymore – that’s when you need to remember what you sometimes forget – that you made a commitment on this day – and a promise for life. Life can and will sometimes go “sideways” – and if you are not prepared for it – it can rock your world and blow even the strongest marriage to bits.
The mother of the bride – married 37 years – was challenged by Greg’s words and could testify to the fact that sometimes it is that commitment that you need to remember when life has its challenges and stresses. She was cute when she said, “It was good to be reminded – sometimes you just have to say – Oh that’s right! I almost forgot” This is why it’s good to go to a wedding once in a while.
Now I understand that there are extreme circumstances that cannot be reconciled in a marriage – abuse – physical and mental – and by staying with that partner you could be putting your life and your children’s lives in danger. This is understandable and cannot be ignored – nor should the party that has to leave feel guilty or allow others to make you feel that way. God is a loving and forgiving God – and I am a firm believer in “second chances” for those that have been involved in a bad first marriage.
But for the rest of us – here is my challenge today: Remember those vows and commitment you made on that wedding day many years ago. What God has blessed then – He will continue to bless – and it will repeat through your children and their children too. Sometimes we just “forget”. We need a gentle reminder – like a wedding.