I had a disturbing dream last night. I was singing in a mass choir – we had a new director and he had to leave for several minutes – leaving someone else in charge temporarily. What was done next I am not sure – because in the dream I was out of “earshot” and left for a few moments – but when I got back in the room where rehearsal was going on – the choir was learning choreography to a song we had just learned. It was even going to be an audience participation number. I thought – “great – hope I know all the moves so I’m not embarrassed” Someone next to me patiently explained all the moves and I felt fine. Performance time came – we got up to perform our song – the real director was back on stage with us and we began…I started doing the choreography and a couple of rows of people in the audience too – NO ONE ELSE. The director was horrified – he looked at me – then turned around and looked at the ones in the audience too. The song stopped – I was embarrassed – the audience was embarrassed – as this turned out to be an elaborate “hoax” and was meant to undermine the real director and humiliate him in front of an audience. I remember talking with him afterward and assuring him I had NO idea that this had been a “setup” and that I was sure sorry – I mean – WHO would do something like that? And in public? Why would someone want to “bring him down a peg”? It was disturbing – petty and small.
I was still thinking about that dream when I woke up this morning – and was looking at some of the blogs my friends have written today and was intrigued by an article my good friend JoJo Tabares had written – on just this subject – people being cruel – small minded and petty – just because they can. Here is the article: http://artofeloquence.com/blog/rush-to-hatred
It is especially hard to understand when Christians feel this way – and wish harm, humiliation or embarrassment on other people.
Have you ever had this done to you? The answer will always come back – YES!!! I’m sure MANY times over your lifetime. Maybe not in a way that is in public – but we have all felt betrayal – mean spirited individuals that try to “bring us down a peg” and those that seem to have it in for us. I have had it happen – people embarrassing me – I have even had a situation where I had trusted someone with my words only to have conversations that were meant to be private – be brought out in PUBLIC – twisting my words and making me look like an idiot. I’ve been betrayed by a good friend – someone I trusted – and this hurt and humiliation is doubly sharp when you were open, loving and authentic with them – and the only thing I can figure is that “hurting people – hurt people”. Our responsibility is NOT to retaliate – God judges our heart and motives – and we cannot carry around the hurtful things that others do to us. No – we must forgive. And in the end – God himself will hold us accountable for how we treated others – not the other way around.
I wish I had the answers for WHY people behave like this – why those we love and thought loved us would treat us so badly. We expect it from those that are not walking in a relationship with the Lord as their Savior – but what about those that are?
Are you in to “President Bashing”? I would think again – if you’re a Christian. The Bible clearly says that it is God himself who sets up those that are in authority over us – and that it is our responsibility as a believer to PRAY for them. Can our voice be heard? Absolutely!!! But our words should be respectful and kind – Christ like – we SHOULD lead by our example of love and grace. We need to have more Christians like this in our world – so we CAN turn things around – and get others to follow our lead. We should be the most encouraging, loving and positive people in the world! I want to live in a world like this, don’t you?
If you have been treated unkindly – by any of the things mentioned above then you know first hand how damaging it is! Start taking steps to turn it around! Be the first to walk away from a negative conversation – “bashing” of another and stand up for what is positive and right. Defend people – d0n’t be a part of petty schemes to embarrass and bring people down – EVEN if you think they deserve it. Even if someone has hurt you. Even then. God is our judge – only Him. Let Him do the job that is rightfully His. Be a good friend. Be someone others come to – to hear loving, encouraging words. Words of health and life. Be that dependable, trustworthy friend to others around you. Slow to anger – slow to retaliate – Quick to listen and forgive.
Just something to think about today.