31 years ago tomorrow I walked down the aisle at 20 years old to say “I do” to Greg. One of my favorite memories from that crazy day is the song that Greg and his two brothers sang to me, “What a difference you’ve made in my life”. I found a version by B.J. Thomas – and although it is not the same as the karaoke version we used back in 1981 it is still a fun memory to hear it played today.
Marriage has its ups and downs and we certainly are not a perfect couple by any means. We are flawed human beings who have done our best to stay current and adaptable to any and all situations that life has thrown at us. There were misunderstandings and people who have come and gone in our lives. There have been weaknesses and shortcomings in both of us, but they have also been the glue and bonding that have become a key element in keeping our marriage, love and friendship alive.
I have changed much since I was 20. I’ve discovered things about myself I didn’t know or couldn’t reveal when I was younger. I’ve experienced things along the journey that made me stronger and made me want to be a better person. And there have been those that have planted seeds of freedom and courage in me. Some of those people are still with me today – but most are not. The one thing that has stayed constant is my relationship with Greg. He has stood by me and truly been a best friend. He has allowed me to grow and express myself. He has given me wings to do the things I feel called to do.
Humor and laughter have remained a constant thing in our marriage. We have always laughed and still laugh many times a day. We have found a new-found communication in the last 4 years or so and we talk about things for hours now, instead of just brushing them aside. We have favorite programs we like to watch in the evening – and we love to walk and talk. We share a love for coffee and puppies. And we both agree that our two “children” are the best looking, brightest and most adorable – EVER!
Our solid foundation has been a faith and personal relationship with Jesus Christ. This has kept us strong and in tough times has given us strength to make the right choices and do the right thing. And we have found that God’s grace renews everyday – is fresh every morning. So glad for this!
We look forward to 31 more years together. Still doing life together and enjoying each new day. Supporting and encouraging each other’s strengths – but standing by the weaknesses. Being true to our vows and believing the best in each other – always.