This was a unique gathering – most were relatives of ours, although we had never met the bride and I can’t remember meeting the groom either. Greg has a long history with the step father of the groom – it is his Uncle (just 2 years older than himself) and had in fact also officiated this Uncle’s wedding just 10 years ago.
The young couple was married on a romantic beach in Lake Tahoe last summer so this ceremony was simply a formality for the relatives and friends who live here in Seattle.
What I observed was something I usually do not see at a wedding. I was watching the bride throughout the ceremony. She was having fun! She would look around the room and notice all those in attendance and smile in recognition. She was present in the moment. She did not have tunnel vision – she saw everyone.
How nice not to be tired, nervous, hyper focused and mentally absent – like most brides are on their wedding day. The pressure was off for this bride – since she was already married – she could enjoy herself fully – nothing to worry about – just have fun and enjoy her guests. What a concept.
I wonder how many of us actually enjoy events that are a BIG DEAL. Like our wedding day? How many of us can say we are present in the moment of important days? Most of us get so caught up in things being a certain way that we can’t enjoy the moment when it happens.
This year I plan to be present in the moment for all the upcoming festivities. Thanksgiving is next week – and so what if my house isn’t perfect. I will not wear myself out in planning and preparing – and lose sight of what really is important. I will get my proper rest and be able to enjoy the day. Christmas is looming ever closer with gatherings, a recital and a trip to California to see Shawn. I am going to enjoy each one of those things – concentrate on being present for each one of them. I will not be robbed of what is really important and be too tired physically and emotionally drained.
When I am relaxed in mind and body I am able to take in and give out. Like a bride already married on her wedding day – I will be ready, relaxed and at peace.