Musings From A Musical Mind

Archive for the ‘Facebook’ Category

Using Facebook For Good

Image representing Facebook as depicted in Cru...

Image via CrunchBase

I’ve hesitated to write on this subject for over 3 years now.  It is a sensitive issue – but as I always want to be an encourager and my purpose is to build up – here goes.

Is Facebook bad?  Can Facebook be evil?  I hear almost everyday – someone, somewhere telling me that they will never join Facebook because of what they’ve heard.  Or another person will write on a status update that they need to “fast” Facebook because they feel convicted as it can be time-consuming and maybe even tempt them in unhealthy ways and relationships.  Some pastors even believe that they should get their church members off Facebook.  That feels very discouraging to me.  Especially when I read about it in a person’s status update.  It is better to be encouraging and positive.  I love to read what other pastors and leaders say on the subject.  Those that use it for good.  They say that Facebook is not evil – people have sometimes misused it and made it that way.  But it is also a great tool for connecting with people.  This is so true.

I have been saddened by some status updates.  Status updates that say someone is taking a fast or going away altogether – leaving the impression by those of us still using social networking – that we have missed the boat – are wasting time or something worse.  It is these same people who feel convicted and then try to “convict” everyone else on connecting with people.  And while sometimes past connections can be unhealthy – or at least not the best, Facebook should not be blamed.

As long as we have had people – there has always been a tendency to wander and step outside the boundaries.  Affairs with people from the past happened as far back as the Bible days and before.  If you have the desire to go outside your marriage – you don’t need Facebook to do that.

I love Facebook.  It has allowed me to connect with people from our past ministry life and those I thought we would never see again – and be a very real part of their lives again.  It’s a miracle.  I also love seeing pictures and updates on students of mine past and present – and our wonderful family and close friends.

The problem comes when we listen to negative propaganda that claims that Facebook is the number one reason that marriages fail.  It is not because of Facebook, people.  It’s because people are flawed human beings.  If you are looking for that sort of thing – you can find it and not just on social networking.  Facebook is simply a tool.  It’s neutral.  Neither positive or negative.  If you want to message someone and have private conversations you can do this on Facebook – just like you can also do that on email or by regular mail, texting and cell phone calls.  Like any other resource and tool – it needs to be used wisely – not blamed when you or others mess up.

I believe Facebook can and should be used for good.  You can be an encourager.  You can be that positive role model – spreading around joy and hope for others.  You can use humor as a great way of relieving stress in everyday life.  And you can share pictures and updates in a way that build up – not tear down.  But most of all – you can stay connected to those that are a real part of your life.

Now I know what some of you are going to say.  “There’s so much drama and negative stuff on Facebook now – and what about those political opinions from those VERY VOCAL and opinionated!”  And ALL THOSE GAME REQUESTS!!!!  Here is what I do.  I don’t get involved in politics on Facebook.  You can’t win.  If I feel that someone is being too vocal on certain subjects and I’m uncomfortable – I just go to the home page and click the “x” on the right side of the comment.  This gives me the option of seeing any more comments from them.  It has cleaned up many things on my home page – so I simply don’t see the negative, inappropriate and the unnecessary.  I block any game request I don’t want or remove the app altogether.  I also clean up my friend list once in a while too – I simply don’t connect with everyone on my list and so I remove them.  When that is not an option – the “hiding” of their comments is better for me.

Here’s another thing I’ve done lately.  I’ve put the ones I talk to and connect with most often in a “list” called “close friends”.  I have another one for “Current students”  “Church friends” “Family” etc.  Instead of having my regular “News Feed” on my home page – I just pull up the list that I want and write a status update so that those people on my list are the only ones who see what I write.  This works great for me getting messages to my students without having to write a private message.  I also only “friend” people that I know.  This is a HUGE bonus.  If someone requests me that I don’t – I will not friend them unless it is a friend of a student or a friend of a friend.  If people from my past make me uncomfortable and try to friend me – I just don’t accept.  There’s no fear here – I am in control of who I talk to and let into my world.

Another blessing has been the ability to promote my music studio by having a “fan page” just for that purpose.  I show photos and videos of past recitals and the students who are involved with taking music lessons.  It is a great link to my actual website – since so many people are now on Facebook.

If you’re reading this and have done some of the status updates that I’ve mentioned above – those that would try to “convict” and “moralize” something that you feel strongly about – here’s what you could do next time.  Simply disconnect with others that are making you feel this way, unfriend those that need to be unfriended and if you are really having trouble with being disciplined with your time you spend – instead of making a statement about that – just walk away for a while.  You don’t need to tell anyone – or find excuses for why you’re leaving – because you are going to find that most people on Facebook really love what they’re doing – and the people who they’re connected with.  And making people feel bad should never be a conscious decision.   Being positive and allowing others to be who they are – is always a better choice.  

I’m hoping you will join me in using something so wonderful – a vehicle for staying connected with others – for good.

 

God Bless

Advertisements

A Pill That’s Hard To Swallow

Thanks to the Facebook page, Adoration to God – for this great picture!

How about you – do you you find the above pill hard to swallow?

God Bless

Yes I Really Do Have 700 Friends On Facebook

Image representing Facebook as depicted in Cru...

Image via CrunchBase

The other day I attempted to “cut my friend list” on facebook.  You know how it goes – you have an account for a while, and pretty soon people just start “appearing” on your friend list until you have near 1000 people!  This happened to me a few years ago.  I heard the snickers and taunts from my other facebook friends, “no one has 100o friends!” and set out to cut it back and only have people there I actually knew in person and had a connection with.

That was 2 or 3 years ago.  Then over time it crept up again as I slowly added those that were “late adopters” in joining the social media world.  Students, former students and people I had a relationship with on some level all came on board and asked to “friend” me.  Usually I did – because I knew them, or a friend knew them.

And like you, I have also been forced to eliminate some who I don’t need to be seeing every little thing they do, have contact with – or who for some reason have made me feel uncomfortable by status updates, pictures and comments.  And some people I do not feel comfortable with them seeing every little thing about me either.  But luckily this number is very small.

The other day I noticed my numbers were climbing up there again.  “NO ONE has 800 or 1000 close friends”, I said to myself.  I went through my list of “friends” and started eliminating based on whether or not I ever had a conversation with them.  As I was cutting back my list – I noticed something.  Most of these people are students, former students, past ministry life, or current friendships and church connections.  And because I love being connected with those I have had a part in the investing process – I don’t want to cut it loose.  Students grow up, get jobs, get married and have children – how much I would miss if I didn’t have them on facebook.

I guess the bottom line is this:

Yes I REALLY DO have 700 friends in my life.  I would not have known that until I went to look at them closely, individually, one by one.  Each face is a reminder of an event in both our lives that made that special connection.  Some are people I know only through the blogging community and many of them I have been able to talk with on Skype, although I have not met them in person.  They are daily contributors to my world of writing – and we have a common faith in Jesus Christ.

For those of you who are not aware who is on your friend list – I encourage you to do the same thing.  Look at your list and for each person you keep, remember why they are in your life and what brought you to this point in time.

I love making new friends – but mostly the people who I remain in contact with are the relationships that have stood the test of time and have meaning in my life today.

I am thankful for facebook.  It has allowed me to stay in touch and be a part of those I love as we share pictures, love and laughter together, encouraging and praying for each other – it helps to fill in those times when we can’t be together in person 🙂

As a teacher – facebook has been a great tool for keeping students and parents informed.  I have a page for my music studio as well as one for my blog.  These have both been great tools of communication!

And I’m a sucker for former and current students “dropping by” my page and saying “hello” to me 🙂

How many “friends” do you have on facebook?

God Bless

Doing Simple Maintenance

Image representing Apple as depicted in CrunchBase

Image via CrunchBase

I’ve had a fruitful – and frustrating morning.  My blogging friend, Keri Welch of Pop Parables wrote a very good article yesterday, Facebook for Bloggers: A Short Guide.  I read it and dismissed it, thinking – do I really need another page on facebook to keep track of?   I already have a personal page and a page for my music students and parents.  But as I read the many benefits – I was slowly won over.

So I started to build my page – only to discover that my banner did not fit as a normal picture on my facebook fan page.  I tried everything – no luck.  I finally gave up and put a picture of myself instead.    I started adding other pictures and then my iMac started acting sluggish.  It was very frustrating as I was right in the middle of building my new page.  I cleaned my trash – did a software update – NOTHING.  So I finally called Apple and a very nice guy walked me through a simple maintenance for my iMac.  Things that no one EVER tells you when you get your computer.  Well maybe they do – but no one told me – even when I installed the new software and had Apple Care.  He was very nice and I took notes 🙂

Long story short:  I have a new “fan page” for my blog.  If you are a loyal reader and would like to have more interaction and dialog about blogging 0r anything in general – please add my page to your “fan pages” by visiting here: Cindy Holman’s Blog and clicking “Like”. I would really appreciate it.

Hugs to all of you – and thanks so much Keri – for making me see the light 🙂

God Bless

The Future Of Social Networking

I just read an article and watched a really cool video showing the future of social networking on my friend David Mile’s blog.  David has a wonderful and innovative blog site and I encourage you to check it out!  David is a former staff buddy who served alongside my husband at New Life Church in Renton, Washington.  He is fun, quick and full of great ideas.  He has a beautiful wife and a new baby girl – and it is fun to read his blog about his experiences about being a new father.  It is also fun picking his brain and seeing what other ideas he can come up with!  The church where he now serves, Maple Valley Presbyterian – is lucky to have him 🙂

I have been increasingly frustrated with some social networking – and would LOVE to have it be more like what is presented in the video on David’s blog.  This is MY kind of future!!

I love facebook because of the interaction. I have a regular group of friends and we communicate almost everyday – share jokes, pictures, links and laughs.  If you are one of those newer “facebookers” and have about 10 friends – and I am one of them – you will see me a lot on your home page – because I am talking and communicating with friends.  It will look to you like I am talking to myself to just hear myself talk – or something equally ridiculous.  I’ve actually had people with a few friends say to me, “You’re on ALL THE TIME”  or, “I know EVERYTHING about you”  which of course is silly and not true.  I am on facebook to connect with others and to have fun, sure – but it is NOT just ME out there.  Now if you have several hundred people on your friend list then my comment are very seldom. And almost non-detectable to most on my list.  It’s all in your lens and how you view social networking.  It is simply a tool – used to connect.  I can tell you that I’ve found hundreds of people from places and situations where my husband and I  have lived all over the country – and it is so fun to share life with them again – where it would not be possible any other way.

Skype is also great!  I talk to my parents on this fairly often even though they only live about 25 minutes from me.  It puts a face with the conversation and makes it feel like you’re right in the same room.  My Mother loves this 🙂  I have other friends from different parts of the world too – and it’s been great to actually see them real-time and have a conversation – I love this!

As a person who has a business – it has been really great for me to stay connected with students and teachers through a website and facebook page.  I love knowing what is going on with my students and be able to connect and communicate such things as upcoming events and schedule changes – as well as fun music I want them to see – or past recital performances to inspire!

I’m still getting used to twitter and can’t say that I love it.  I know that everyone else DOES.  It puzzles me more than anything.  Here’s what I don’t like:  People just spewing out random little “nothings” about every 2 minutes or so.  Now to be fair – I found out from my friend and fellow “Twitteror” Deanna, that  people have apps that run all these random little “nothings” for them – so they don’t have to actually do anything themselves – all work is done for them.  It makes them appear plugged in and engaged in social media – when they aren’t even there. Pretty crazy.  I’m kinda wondering, “what’s the point”?  And as far as connecting with others in the music profession like myself?  Blah.  Nobody takes the time to answer questions on twitter.  I can reply – retweet and follow those I think will have helpful tips and be able to share education experiences – and I’ve come up with MANY dead ends on this.  Most will NEVER ever reply to me.  Following a blog is a WAY better idea.

Which brings us to blogging.  This is probably my favorite social networking of any of them – and I belong to them all – even Linkedin, Stumbleupon, Reddit and Digg.  Blogging brings people together in a very specific way – those that are on your same journey.  There’s something powerful about that.  At least for me.  I started this blog site a little over 2 years ago because I felt the need to express myself and thoughts through writing.  The site was really just for me – but it’s turned into way more than I ever thought and the Lord used it in a mighty way that blows my mind.  I’ve even been on the radio talking about it my blog and blogging in general – as well as being a “guest blogger” on many different blog sites.  It’s humbling to say the least – I never thought that my words or thoughts could be so powerful in motivating and encouraging others – but they have been and I thank God for that because that’s all I ever want to be – a blessing to others.  I get private emails all the time expressing how my writing of a particular article is just for them – it’s really wonderful to hear.  I can’t tell you how many friends I’ve gained by blogging – just look at my blogroll and RSS feed and you’ll see the friends and people who have influenced me and literally rock my daily world. I’m proud to call each of them friend.

Now there is a secret with blogging that some of us understand.  I’m going to let you in on it too – if you are reading this and contemplating a blog site for yourself or you want to gain more readers.  You have to take the initiative.   You have to be a presence on their blog site.  This takes focus and is a time commitment on your part – but it’s well worth it.  Decide who you want to invest in – and then be there – make a contribution by commenting.  It should be returned – but sadly, it isn’t always.  Be the one to leave the comments as  a courtesy and eventually they will follow your example.  Is this always easy to do?  No.  I follow about 10 or so blogs consistently and it does take time – but the relationship and contribution through blogging is invaluable and you can’t find that elsewhere – so it is worth investing in.  Women are better at this than men – and I don’t hold it against my guy friends who don’t always contribute to my blog – they simply are just not able to with time constraints and let’s face it – men don’t need to connect like women do – so go easy on them.  They are still reading your blog 🙂

Just don’t be one of those that thinks, “If I comment on their blog – no one will want to visit and comment on my blog anymore”  You couldn’t be MORE WRONG.  Change your attitude and decide to be the positive and encouraging word for them.  You may literally change a bad day.  And be the reason that they keep writing.

Click here to see the video “A Day Made Of Glass” to see all the future possibilities in store for us!  And thanks to my friend, David for posting this today!

God Bless

Reinventing Me!

Image representing iPhone as depicted in Crunc...

Image via CrunchBase

I am on a journey.  I am a child of the sixties who lived a whole lifetime before I met my husband in college – and have live a whole lifetime since then.  I have always found it easy to go through changes and adapt easily to new ideas.  It was never an adjustment for me to get married or to move around so much because of the career path my husband chose.  Leaving friends behind was always harder for me than a major move – and frankly I had more trouble leaving Canada when I was 8 because of a friendship – than I ever did moving so much when I was an adult.

When I was young most everybody had one television in their home – usually black and white and if you were really rich – you had a color set in addition to the black and white.  There was no such thing as VCR’s for recording programs that you missed – if you were gone (like church) you just simply missed it.  Being a child of the 60’s and 70’s was not fun for that reason.  Transistor radios and tape recorders were popular then – and I remember getting my own tape recorder when I was 10.  I would record myself talking and singing – it was great fun!

When I was in Junior High and High School – record albums were in vogue – and I had many vinyls – like Michael Jackson, Carpenter’s, Barry Manilow,  Elton John, Chicago and Earth Wind and Fire.  Cd’s were starting to become popular in the early 80’s and did not catch on with us until later than that.  We owned many cassette tapes and it was expensive to switch over – but switch over we did!  And I remember when people were first getting Cd players in their cars – so expensive!

Our first computer in the mid 80’s was a 286 – long before the world-wide web was popular in homes.  This computer was more like a word processor and I remember being at a job in Alaska where it was a big deal to train on one of these to make the office more efficient.  I even worked as a manager for a cable place in Fairbanks, Alaska – and they used microfiche – and it was usually a week behind.

Our first taste of the internet was when Greg was given a computer for his 40th birthday – 11 years ago.  We were a little slow getting with the program 🙂

I did have a cell phone back in the day.  I used to be a sales director for Mary Kay Cosmetics and would have long commutes to and from church on Wednesday – when I would drive down from our home to choir practice with 2 children in the car and it wasn’t against the law to talk on a cell phone yet.  I would make my business calls while traveling.  This was about 15 years ago.  Cell phones and computers have come a long way since then.

I have always loved each new change – I had a  LG flip phone for a couple of years – when it was new it was really great – but like any technology it soon got left in the dust – to be replaced by newer and more efficient models.  I now use an iPhone – not the newest one – but it’s still an iphone 🙂

When my daughter was a teenager I joined MySpace.  Facebook wasn’t even invented yet.  I liked MySpace – could put my favorite music on there – and was considered to be a pretty ‘hip’ Mom for joining in and being a part of the younger people’s world.

When Facebook started to make some noise – and when my friend, Nat Holland told me she liked it better than MySpace because it was international – I thought I would check it out.  I was ahead of my time because this was about 5 years ago – when NO ONE my age was on it yet.  After that everyone began to join – even the ones that swore up and down that they would NEVER do it.  🙂  I have connected with hundreds of people from our ministry life all around the world because of this vehicle.

Two years ago I started a blog site and have been writing ever since.  My husband says that I’ve always been a little bit ahead of the curve – fearless about starting something new – and though not reinventing the wheel – I’m really reinventing myself – through all the changes in technology and how people relate in social media available today.  My life has taken on new meaning by doing this – I get numerous emails from my blog and have been able to develop and minister to many hurting people as a result.  I love my blogging buddies!  And I’m just a newbie – but I have actually encouraged and helped MANY people start blog sites of their own.  It’s been a great experience for me.

My latest reinvention – twitter.  I joined a couple of years ago – but could never get the hang of it – until…my pastor and friend, Stephen suggested that it might be good for connecting with others in business.  I took him at his word and have put myself out there a little more and have searched and FOUND many music teachers like myself – who just need a little encouragement.  Twitter is a quick way to stay involved and see what others are doing in the music community – and for them to see what I do as well.  When you’re a private teacher – you need all the help and encouragement you can get!

Here’s to you as you reinvent yourself in this fast paced technology of today’s world.  It’s your choice – learn something new – or get left behind.  I choose to keep learning as I age.

 

God Bless

Patience Is A Virtue. Yeah Right.

An iMac G5 17" (Rev. A or B) with an Appl...

Image via Wikipedia

Yesterday my husband bought me my very first iMac as an early Christmas present.  Everyone said I needed it – especially because I am a music teacher and have a lot of video and music on my computer – and because my PC is very tired and old.  And since music is so much a part of my life it is the natural choice – especially because  a Mac is said to be far superior to a PC for editing music and video.

So our friend John found us a great deal on a used iMac – about 2 years young and hardly used except for playing music in a home office.  It’s in incredible shape and for all practical purposes it is JUST LIKE BRAND NEW to me.

But I am not a patient person by nature.  Oh I can eventually figure things out – and I have figured many things out with software programs and issues in regards to my PC – that go YEARS back.  But initially I am a total wreck.  And although the previous owner wiped the computer clean of his ownership – it still has some stubborn default items that will not allow me to install new software without a stupid administrative password – which he doesn’t even KNOW anymore.  And I know that because he tried right in front of us and it would take NOTHING.  So he rebooted and it disappeared – so we thought we were in the clear – Until…yeah – well you get the picture.  It’s been a frustrating couple of days.  I do not have Apple support for this computer and I can’t talk to anyone for free – and I REFUSE to pay $49 to talk about a ‘one-time’ issue  – so…I’m trying my best to figure it out.

About a half hour ago – I finally just had to WALK AWAY.  Greg is not here – but even if he was – he’s no help in this department (bless his sweet little heart) – so I’m on my own.  (Oh he knows some things – but unlike me – he has NO INTEREST in computers AT ALL.  Except for returning emails and seeing what everyone is up to on facebook – and looking at the weather and news online – he’s really not that active online.  And that leaves him to prepare for weddings and funerals – using his laptop as a word-processor and type away – he does!)

At the suggestion of our friend, John – I also purchased an external drive and it should be here today – to store all 14 years of recitals – and even tons of pictures too.  I’ve never had anything like this either – so it is another thing I must learn.

And I don’t have ANY idea how to transfer my music from iTunes onto my Mac either.  I tried doing the old ‘reversal’ from my iPhone to my new Mac – but don’t know how to do that without TOTALLY erasing everything.  Oh I’ve googled it – and even gone to iTunes and iMac support – but I just got a headache and nothing more.  Things like this put me in a VERY BAD MOOD – and my husband does not like me very much when I can’t SOLVE SOMETHING.

Ahhh – such is life.  Computers and technology.  They are like people.  And Life.  And I don’t like it.

But I SHALL SURVIVE and even be a better, more knowledgeable and wiser person for it!

This morning I was greeted  with a sweet and loving message in my inbox from someone who has never met me in person – but who has gained encouragement and strength from this blog.  It was lovely to hear those words of  support – and just when I needed them too.  She said I look at problems as opportunities – and it was so nice to hear her say that.  Especially today.

May every problem you encounter – either with people in your world – or computers and technology – bring you one step closer patience, grace and resignation. And may you FIGURE everything out!!  I’m still looking for a bit of patience.  Maybe that can be another early Christmas present 🙂

 

God Bless

Tag Cloud

diana iannarone

Wake Up. Stand Up. Live Free. A Perceptual Approach to Rapid Growth and Permanent Change

Fallen Pastor

Helping fallen pastors and those affected by a fall from ministry

THE MIND OF RD REVILO

Conscious Thought: Driven by Intelligent Awareness

The Devotion Cafe'

Love and Empowerment

Poems & People

what if poems could be symphonies, and people their orchestra?

The Fickle Heartbeat

A blog about love or lack thereof

knitting soul

turning the knots into something beautiful

Kristi Ann's Haven

Jesus ( Yeshua) Saves!!

GODINTEREST - Christian digital media website exploring faith, culture and life

Godinterest is a place to talk about God, Culture, Life and all that other stuff

The Light Post

Scott & Christina Graff

Natalie Breuer

Natalie. Writer. Photographer. Etc.

iwedplanner wedding vendors

This WordPress.com site is the bee's knees

Granny Smith: Unleashed

Observations and random thoughts from a "not so teenager."

meganelizabethmorales

MANNERS MAKETH MAN, LOST BOYS FAN & PERPETAUL CREATIVITY.

TLP

Finding Clear and Simple Faith

lostcompanion

Alcoholism

Brendan Cole - Writer

Musings On Life and Other Minutiae

Chickens Bring Peace to the Earth

Slow down, pray, make better choices

generaliregi

Romance of Five Clouds and Magical Poetry

FOGwalkerBirdie

Walking in the Favor Of God

PROPEL STEPS

Education is Everything

Upside DIY

Born from the love of, "Do It Yourself" attitude!

Soul Access

LAY DOWN YOUR MASK AND BE KNOWN BELOVED

Traveling with Thomas

Follow me as I study in London and travel Europe

Life Confusions

"I Will Find Words, Smith them Down. For Love Is Infinite And So Are They."

ann johnson-murphree

Artist, Writer of Confessional Free Verse Poetry and Fiction

Gotta Find a Home

Conversations with Street People

Ed Mooney Photography

The home of Kildare based Photographer, Blogger and self proclaimed Ruinhunter.

MyCreativeHaven

”Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life.” -- Picasso.

gabrielsfury

poems & stories, thoughts about people and places between moments of clarity, or not.

A Blumes With a View

Putting the "blah" in blog!!

charmcitythriftanista.wordpress.com/

Why do high low when you can keep it on the low low?

Ray Ferrer - Emotion on Canvas

** OFFICIAL Site of Artist Ray Ferrer **

Patterns Tried and True makes a happy YOU

Help Hope Happiness! Knowledge sets you free to become the best you can be!

allmostrelevant

Want to see what an Instagram with no pictures looks like? @allmostrelevant

Good Time Stories

Inspiring and Heartwarming Stories

STEAL MY POETRY

All things unpublishable.

Jayson D. Bradley

Honest to God

Writing Sisters

Your Story - Our Story - God's Story

Book of Mohs

The adventures of an softhearted father

%d bloggers like this: