Our pastor had another excellent message this morning on “How To Deal with Broken Dreams”.
I was aware of the fact, as he was speaking – that I have had a few dreams and things I thought would turn out differently from what they have. I think if we are honest – we would all say the same thing.
And it is in a world of broken or unfilled dreams – that you and I can become restless and discouraged. The most common reaction to heartbreak is to pull away from others. To isolate ourselves and try to make it on our own. This is when we need be very aware that when we are pulling away from others – Satan can have a grip on us – catching us when we are weak and alone. And pulling us down.
1 Peter 5 says this:
8-11Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ—eternal and glorious plans they are!—will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does.
I’m so glad He has the last word. His hand of protection is always on me. There is also ‘safety in numbers’. When we rely on good council from strong Christian brothers and sisters – and are accountable to them – we are less likely to fall away – make unwise choices and stray off the path.
I admit – I like to pull away and be alone – it is in my nature to do so. I’ve always been somewhat of a ‘loner’. This is why – although I enjoy my friendships – it is always easier and more comfortable for me to pull away from the crowd. Being in a married situation – and a mom – took real discipline for me as a person – because many times when I would prefer to be alone – my circumstances were not conducive to it – nor would my family hear of it! But my very patient husband was wonderful in understanding this about me – and at times when our children were very young – he would tell me he was going to watch them and that I could just go somewhere for several hours – to give me a much-needed break.
And although this may be a positive in many ways to like to be alone – and be able to refuel and recharge – it is not always healthy. I need people – the friendships in my life are very important to me – so I have to work at them. The things we value – we will make time for. It is the same way in my marriage to Greg. I value my time alone – but I also make time for him – because it is healthy for me to do so. He keeps me grounded. His love allows me to be who I am – and it is a safe place.
I have also learned that I have to let go of some of the strongholds in my life – people who haven’t treated me right – my chance for complete restoration with an old friend – etc., etc. In letting go and not expecting anything in return – and in fact – never seeing things the way I would like them to be. I decided something today. This is a ‘broken dream’ and I need to let go of it. Period. No more wishing and dreaming of the day that things will be put to right. No more waiting to ask the questions and find the answers – to hear that I’m not crazy after all. Just forgiving and letting it go. Stephen said it so well this morning. ‘Forgive and ask questions later’. How simple this sounds. How true it is. But how humbling and challenging. And yet – I know I have to lead my heart in this area. I have to live with my own choices and my response to the way others have treated me. I’m very aware that this puts me in a vulnerable position to NOT have those walls of protections around me – yes – I could be hurt again. But it is a risk I’m willing to take – because it’s the right thing to do.
Colossians 3 says this:
15Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.
Peace and thankfulness. So much to be thankful for. So much.
And so on this Halloween day – my prayer for you is the same. Let go of it – all of it. And God will bless you for it. Forgive and ask questions later.
Here’s hoping and praying that you will do just that. Stay close to God – and stay close to each other.