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Self-Control

Inside my mind

I am who I am

living a life

unguarded and real

Fighting a battle

with myself

that all must fight

The right to have

the right to decide

the right to control

Many decisions

daily

hold me back

or push me forward

I play a game of chance

I love the thrill

and the rush

the intoxicating darkness

that whispers and calls

it is so easy to go there

But the pain

of choices

past

ruin

hinder

hold back

and rob me

of freedom

and joy

I tremble

and wait

for another unkind word

knowing it is well deserved

hiding

pulling away

from everyone

and myself

it is guilt

it is shame

I want to resist

for a while I am strong

I can do it

no trouble

no inward battle of my will

and then…

I am slowly seduced

by a memory

or a thought

or a ‘what if’

and the game begins

and I am the loser

once again

And so the song

echoes in my head

“I’m never going back again”

and I am firmly resolved

to be weak

and frail

helpless

and undone

It is only

with Christ Jesus

I am set free

I am in full control

my weakness is made strong

when I do not try to do it alone

He teaches me

that my self-control

is the secret to my happiness

the key to my future

the mystery of saying no

and resisting

I am the winner

Sin makes you a slave

Grace sets you free

gives you self-control

peace in your heart

and makes you strong

Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city. Proverbs 16:32

I am praying for you today that you too will learn the secret of building ‘self control’ in your own life – so that your sin nature will not ‘own’ you – promising things that cannot be delivered.  In resisting and saying ‘no’ you embrace freedom – in surrendering to your weakness and losing your will – you will find it again.

God Bless

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Who’s In Charge?

When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into the deep water and lower your nets for a catch.”  Simon answered, “Master we worked hard all night and caught nothing! But at your word I will lower the nets.” When they had done this, they caught so many fish that their nets started to tear. So they motioned to thier partners in the other boat to come and help them.  And  they came and filled both boats, so that they were about to sink. But when Simon Peter saw it, he fell down at Jesus’ knees, saying, “Go away from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man!” For Peter and all who were with him were astonished at the catch of fish that they had taken, and so were James and John, Zebedee’s sons, who were Simon’s business partners.  Then Jesus said to Simon, “Do not be afraid; from now on you will be catching people.” Luke 5:4-10

Heard an excellent sermon last Sunday on the subject of “Authority”. This passage brings many words pictures and images to our minds, doesn’t it?  I see Jesus down at the lake with these “rough” fishermen –  communicating with them in an open and easy way – that was both conversational and commanding.  They respected Him.  There was something different about Him.  They had seen Him teaching the people – they had heard about Him.  And now here He was – taking time with them!  I can see Simon Peter listening intently to what He was asked  to do – and then because he respected Him – he did it!  Amazing.  Just taking Jesus at His word – and doing it.  He recognized the authority of Jesus in his life.  That moment so changed Peter’s life – that the Bible says he left everything and followed Him.

What do you think of when you hear the word “authority”?  Various pictures pop into your heads such as parents, teachers, pastors or other significant leaders or mentors that you’ve had in your life.  There may have been times in your life when someone abused that authority and you now have a distorted view of anybody having authority in your life.  And you may question everything.

I believe respect is earned and not bestowed.  And I believe you cannot expect people to follow your leadership unless they respect you.  It used to be that children were told to respect their elders or parents (anyone in authority over them) with no questions asked.  But then several problems came about because authority was abused and fear became the motivator and not respect.

Today I believe that even when a child is in school there should be a careful balance between respect and questioning.  As a teacher I am very aware of the fact that respect is earned – and if a student does not like me – or even fears me – I will not earn their respect and it will be more difficult to get them to do as I ask them – or to obey me.  It used to be that children obeyed (feared) no matter what the personal consequences – because they didn’t question anything!  How wrong that was on so many levels.  And how easily that fear turned into loathing and stubborn silent refusal to yield on the inside.  I also realize that children need to obey teachers and parents – but there is a way to motivate without fear and abuse.  There is a way to be involved in a child’s life so that they know that you love and care about them – therefore earning their respect and love back.

Yes – we need authority in our lives.  We all do.  I believe that God places people in authority over our lives – and that He knows best for us.  I’m just dumb enough to believe the Bible when it says that God sets up leaders in authority over us – and that means our president too – fancy that!  I don’t have to like him – but I sure do have to respect his position because God himself said I have to – and I have a responsibility to pray for him too.  Wow.

I’ve had situations where people have tried to “push” their authority on me – to try to manipulate a posture of submission out of me.  And believe me – it was very difficult to sit and take it.  But I did recognize that even though they went about it in the very worst way possible  – at least for me – I still needed to respect them for their position, knowing that God himself had raised them up.  Now it would have been better if they had “earned” my respect first – or had that kind of relationship with me – where they could speak those things into my life – but sadly that was not the case and it left me very confused and troubled.  When people really know you and show you respect – then they earn a platform from which to speak into your life.  And that’s the simple truth.

Who’s in charge?  Ultimately God has to be the final word in my life and yours too.  People are human – capable of many flaws and shortcomings.  They can do much damage to us – especially those who are in “authority” over us – if it is abused – and if it is not respected.  I think this is why so many of us “question” and don’t just take people at their word – even when they are in position over us to do so.

Who do you have in your life that says something to you that maybe you disagree with  – but still you respond like Simon Peter did above, “But at your word, I will do it!”?  (Holman paraphrase)  If you are like me – not many.  Trust is earned.  Respect is also earned.

I am hoping and praying that as you are reading this you will be that kind of person/leader/motivator/encourager to others – to evoke a trust and respect so that you will have a platform from which to speak in someone’s life today.

God Bless

To Stuff Or Not To Stuff – That Is The Question.

Today while having lunch my dear husband asked me this question:  How am I doing with being authentic – Am I still “stuffing”?  What he means of course, is have I learned to release everything in my life – not bottle up – not push down – but be free enough to get it out on the table – once and for all – and mostly, have I learned to NOT stuff anything and to NOT want to talk about it.

Loaded question.  Much to think about.

I come from a long life of “stuffing” – it is my “default” setting – so this is a reasonable question.  And just recently (in the last year) he really found out how much I DID stuff.

I believe it is healthy to be able to get things out.  But I also believe that not everything is beneficial or helpful by “saying it” – so I have weighed everything carefully that I “say” out loud.

Our words are important.  They can damage – they can hurt and leave deep wounds.  They can also bring healing and restoration if said in love.  I believe we need to know the difference.  I believe we need to speak in love.  And have the best in mind for the person that is receiving our words.If things are not right – and you have to push them down to “get a handle” on them – then that’s not right.  It is never healthy to do that.  It is important to communicate clearly with those in your life – those that you love and that love you.  For some of you – this is a “journey” 0f thoughts and feelings – emotions that you are not sure what to do with at times – so you just “stuff them” – but if the people in your life really love you – they will encourage you to get them out – and it will be a “safe” place for you to do so.

“Everything is permissible”–but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is constructive.

I Corinthians 10:23

Sometimes we let our own fear of rejection and being “shut down’ prevent us from speaking up!  But the healthiest way to live – is to find your voice and make your feelings known!  Not in a bad way that would “tear down” – but in a healthy positive way.  If you can’t do this – don’t say it!

Ask the Lord to help you in this area today.  If it’s fear that holds you back from being all you can be – and being emotionally free – then He will help you and give you strength to overcome.

I was happy to be able to tell Greg, when he asked me that question – No – I am NOT stuffing!  And it felt good to say it – because it’s the TRUTH.  And it’s really true what the Bible says about truth.  It really will set you free.

I am praying for you today – GET IT OUT!!

God Bless

Words

Yesterday I had some good news on a personal level.  Someone I had been estranged from  – had come full circle to send me a message – it was something I had been praying about for over a year.

It got me thinking about our “words” and “words” from others.

Words can be healing to us – or bring pain.  How powerful are “words”!

The Bible talks about the tongue being “sharper than a two edged sword” – and I have felt the cuts over the years – from people that are casual people in my life  – and worse yet – those that I love and that I thought loved me back.  Words that sent me into a tailspin and left me bleeding and wounded.

I have also experienced the “lack” of words – that I so desperately needed to hear.  The silence that just SCREAMS.  Been there and done that – and that can hurt and cut just as deep.  Nothing worse than being separated from a good friend and having no way to reconcile the situation.  You feel helpless.

In one situation just recently I found that there was only one person who could say the “healing” words I needed to here.  Many others tried – gave feeble explanations for things gone wrong and even said to just “forget about it”.  It will get better with time.  But it did not.  No closure – no explanation – no reconciliation – no words of healing.  I knew everyone meant well – but no one knows my heart – other than God.  In the end – it was that one person that could offer the gift of stepping toward forgiveness and understanding – and that was what I needed.  A healing balm over a sad and troubled heart.

Our words are powerful.  They can bring healing – or death to a person.  We can withhold them and it can be a slow torturous ride – sending a person to sadness and depression – wondering why there can be nothing to break the silence.  We need to use our words to bring life and healing to those we are in fellowship with – those in our world and those who brush up against it.  We need to let everything that flows out of our mouths  – be sweet and loving – knowing that we can produce life or death to a person hearing them.

I have had my break through – it was much prayed for – and I never gave up.  You see – I believe with all my heart that God wants forgiveness and reconciliation for all of us.  He lovingly softens even the hardest heart that has been hurt so badly – He reaches in and begins to speak peace and healing to that hard heart.  He is in the restoring business.  He is ALL love.

Don’t give up.  Use your words today to bring peace into a situation of chaos and hopelessness.  Even if it looks like you might not get your answer – and that maybe God has abandoned you – I want to encourage you.  He has not forgotten about you and your hurting heart.  He has a plan for your life – he is working round the clock to bring about a miracle for your life.  Keep believing.  If you are waiting for those “words” you need to hear to bring your healing today – they may be just around the corner.  And you may have a sweet surprise of your own to write about.

God Bless

Can Men Really Get It Right?

My friend Barry found the item below and posted it today on facebook.  I read it and thought, “how true this is”!!We often “settle” – especially as women.  It is not easy to find a “good man” who is loving and kind – gentle and respectful of women.  When you find a good one – HANG ON TO HIM!!!

How many women settle for something WAY different than this model?  Too many.  The amount of verbal and physical abuse among couples is HUGE.  And so many problems happen because of disrespect and apathy.  If more men would take the following and apply it to their lives – the world would be a better place.

Women respond to gentleness.  Women respond to Love.  Women respond to someone who protects them and cares about her emotional needs.  A real man covers – never exposes.  A real man loves someone for WHO they are – not for what they DO – or what they look like on the outside.  A man that is humble,  kind and patient – strong of character and integrity.  Who won’t “talk down” and make someone feel bad. – A real man encourages that woman to be everything she can be – and think she’s the most beautiful thing he’s ever seen.

How true this is – for those of us that have found a man like this.  They are rare indeed.  I’ve had friends come and go in my life – and the ones that end up sticking around and being forever friends are the ones that know how to treat me – love and encourage with their words and actions – cover and never expose for their own personal gain.  I love my friends ♥  I have come to trust them over time – men and women who share common things – and who are on a journey with me – in this thing called “life”.  They are the very model of Christ himself to me.  And I have a husband who is ALL of these things listed below.  The longer I know him – the more incredible qualities I see in him.


Here is the list – Enjoy and God Bless!


HOW CAN A WOMAN NOT LOVE THE LORD?

© He is a gentleman,

© He is confident

© He is a provider and protector

© He is rich and powerful

© He owns everything; there is nothing He wouldn’t do for me

© He perfects all things concerning me

© He anticipates my wants and needs

© Every day He tells me and shows me how much He loves me

© I don’t have to perform in order to earn His love

© He keeps all of his promises

© No one can influence His opinion of me

© He is the ultimate intimate partner

© He can’t ‘disown’ me because I am a part of Him

© He prepares a table before me (Selah)

© He covers me and doesn’t expose me

© He wrote His loving words down so that I’ll never forget how He feels about me!

NOW THAT’S LOVE!!!

Any man, w ho wants pointers on how to love a woman, should study GOD!

Wake up every day and thank God for being the best ‘man’ in your life!

Each and everyone one of us is going through tough times right now, but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that only He can.

Keep the faith!
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose..
Romans 8:28 KJV

My Pesky Little Tongue

It happened again.  I said something I shouldn’t have said.  I tried to “hold it in” and then it just…happened.  I mean – honestly.  People can be SO stupid and I would be less than true to myself if I didn’t say what I meant!  And they deserved it.

Or

I know I shouldn’t have written that email or message to someone – but they’ll understand my tone because I do.  They shouldn’t think anything about it – I’m just being me – and to be me  – means being completely honest and everyone will just have to understand – I’ve got to be ME!!

Do either of these sound like you?  Yeah – me too.  The Bible tells us that out of the heart – the mouth (or tongue) speaks.  That pesky little tongue – it’s so little – how can it do so much damage?  If you are like me you have about a thousand or more words you wish you could take back – either years ago – last year 0r last night.

This morning we heard another great message from Pastor Greg at MRCC about “The Fear of God” – this time about the tongue.  In James 3 we read:

…So too the tongue is a small part of the body, yet it has great pretensions.  think how small a flame sets a huge forest ablaze. and the tongue is a fire! The tongue represents the world of wrongdoing among the parts of our bodies.  It pollutes the entire body and sets fire to the course of human existence – and is set on fire by hell. For every kind of animal, bird, reptile and sea creature is subdued and has been subdued by humankind  – But no human being can subdue the tongue; it is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.  With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse people made in God’s image.  From the same mouth come blessing and cursing.

How much damage can be made by the tongue.  It is HUGE.  I am humbled and ashamed at how I have spoken over the years – when I was younger and much more feisty and hadn’t had life “season” me yet.  And I am keenly aware of the damage others have done to me too – even pretty recently.  In Mark 33 we read:

Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is known by its fruit.  Offspring of vipers!  How are you able to say anything good, since you are evil? For the mouth speaks from what fills the heart.  The good person brings good things out of his good treasury and the evil person brings evil things out of his evil treasury.  I tell you that on the day of judgment, people will give an account for every worthless word they speak.  For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.

This passage should greatly alarm us.  Should humble us and bring us to our knees asking forgiveness for all the worthless words we have spoken.  We have all done it.  After all – doesn’t the world revolve around me?  Shouldn’t I be allowed to be happy?  Say what I want?  Let the chips fall where they may?  I don’t think so.  This passage says that at the judgement everything will be brought out in the open – what was done in secret – everyone will know.  Frightening stuff.

We need to:

Be careful what we say

Speak less and listen more

Learn to use our tongue like God uses His

We need to bless people – and speak life and hope

If you are one like me – who tends to have a big mouth sometimes – you need to know that you CAN tame the tongue – but it starts with asking forgiveness for the things that you’ve already said – and forgiving those things that have been said against you.  Ask the Lord to help you to really love people just as they are – no strings – no hidden agenda.  Ask Him to enable you to see others as He sees them – ask Him to help you to bless them and offer them words of life and hope.  A gentle word and encouragement from you can go a long way.

I am praying for you

God Bless

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