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Are You Alone?

I am at a Starbucks out of town, while on a road trip with Greg. I noticed when walking in this place that it was unusually crowded. I peered around for a vacant table – and then I saw it. The only empty table in the place. A lonely LARGE table. This table holds eight people. It is empty. There are many smaller tables around it – all full. It is awkward. Little old me at such a large table. By myself. Alone.

Throughout the years I have witnessed people alone at a table for two in restaurants. I'm sure they are uncomfortable. They avoid eye contact, are often reading a book or a magazine and trying to “appear” busy. At the few times I have found myself alone out in public having to eat alone at a table for two – it is very awkward. I try not to feel that way – but the society in which we live – dictates that to be alone means something dreadful and sad. You feel people watching you – you want to scream, “I'm only alone because I am choosing it” but it is no use. Alone is alone. No matter how you slice it.

Many people find themselves alone at different seasons in life. Usually it is not planned, can happen suddenly and takes them by surprise. Being alone is an unpleasant prospect. Being alone out in public – even scarier. Especially for women.

I have often marveled at how people, once in a long-term relationship and suddenly alone, can begin again. They takes the necessary steps to go out in public again – and even after time *gasp* – begin the thought process of dating again. *Double gasp* The first time around is scary enough for anyone – why oh WHY would anyone choose to do it again? – I've always thought. But at the same time – I am amazed and warmed by those who have not only taken steps to not be alone – but actually find someone else. The chances for 'love the second time around' are really great!! And I have witnessed this marvel – many times over the years. Usually it is a long time friend, who also finds them-self alone or in this technically advanced society – through online dating sites.

The holidays can be wonderful – but also very lonely. Especially for those who have lost a mate, child or friend. There are so many sad songs surrounding the holidays. Some of the best lyrics involve sadness and loss. You would have to be intensely naive – to think that this season is automatically joyful for all.

If you are alone this season, the best thing you can do is get out and be with people. Attend a church service, holiday concert or an invite to a Christmas party. You may find that the warmth of friendship is your anchor and will bring you additional courage in the months to come. And because you are alone – your relationship with others in your life will become much more precious and you will now have time to renew old ties. If you have The Lord in your life – you know how much of a comfort it is to have a friend that “sticks closer than a brother” and who knows it all. He will become more dear to you during this time.

If you know someone who is alone for the first time this season – invite them over. Be a friend. Look around. Notice the ones who are alone in your church services. Get involved. Show gentleness and compassion. Spread love around. Sprinkle kindness. Stir in humor. Fold in understanding. Bring true meaning to the season this year. Make someone's Christmas truly special. You may be the only person who can.

God Bless

 

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Being Genuine

What does this mean? I hear the word “genuine” and a few images come into my mind. It is much the same as being “authentic” – or “open and honest”. When I am being “genuine” – I don’t have to stop to remind myself of what to say next – or be afraid of saying too much to the wrong person – I am just simply being me.

Children are very genuine. They are just who they are – nothing more – nothing less. It is refreshing to be around a child. I love my students. I get much joy from being around them – and I believe that’s why Jesus loved children so much and said we need to be like them – in order to enter the kingdom of God. It is refreshing. It is real. It is authentic. It is genuine.

Why do we lose the ability to be real? It takes years of careful practice to say things we don’t mean so we don’t “rock the boat” with people – or we dance around issues and become good at being less than we are because we are so disciplined at being who we are not. All to keep the peace.

We do this because of fear. Fear of rejection mostly. Fear of being rejected for being who we are. Fear that we will never really be heard. Or worse yet – saying what we mean and feeling like we are not.

I have a choice to make. I can be my real “genuine” self – or I can live a life where no one really knows the real me. I can build up many layers of protection around myself so that I am never hurt – and never take a risk – never reveal any of my true self to anyone. And let’s face it – sometimes being authentic with our feelings is a big risk – especially if we come from out of our hiding place and take a chance that someone will understand us. What if they don’t? What if they take advantage of me being myself – being genuine – revealing who I really am – with all my flaws and failures. What then? Do I crawl back into my shell and hide again underneath the layers of protection that I have built up for myself? Is being me – really worth it?

I believe that because God knows me so well – knows what I am thinking at all times and has not abandoned me – this gives me courage to be who I really am. I can take a risk of being authentic with you – I can risk loving you – because I am so loved. There is no fear in true love. I am safe. I am protected. Most of all – I am validated for being just who I am. No apologies. No fuss and muss. Just my authentic genuine self.

I am praying that you will find safety in being that genuine real you – knowing that you too are loved.

God Bless

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