Today I had a conversation with Greg while taking one of our 2 mile walks. It started when he said, “This seems like another great night for a fire!” And I agreed. It has been really chilly lately – was VERY cold in the house last night. And I said, “you know what would really be nice? If we could have a fan or blower so that all the heat from the fire wouldn’t go up the chimney”.
This statement of mine – which was part a “dream” and just “thinking out loud” – became a HUGE topic of discussion while walking along. I had ignited a part of my very practical husband that was ready to both contradict me on what was needed – and recite to me the cost of having such a device, when “our fireplace works just fine!”.
It was both amusing to me – and then slightly annoying – as I was once again reminded of how different men and women are. And not only that, but how the different personalities are within men and women.
I have taken the personality tests. I am an “Otter” and a “Lion” – which basically means I’m very social – but am organized and can take charge of a situation, clearly stating what needs to be done – all the while enjoying life, a good joke and people in general. Otters are highly social – and usually can read a room really well. You want a good positive and happy time – invite a few Otters. Lions are great “idea” people – creative and innovative – great and enthusiastic motivators. Want something done? Ask a Lion.
My husband is also an “Otter” – but he has just enough “Golden Retriever” in him that makes him much more cautious about new ideas and situations in general – all the while loving engaging with people and enjoying life and a good joke. His work ethic is off the charts (in my opinion) and our daughter, Ashlee takes after him in this way. Golden Retrievers are peacemakers more than anything else. Usually very laid back and happy. It takes a lot to rattle their world. They are loyal and agreeable. But they are extremely cautious and careful – about everything. He has a little “Beaver” in him too. Beavers are great “workers” and do a precise job. Want something done right? Ask a Beaver.
Because Greg is careful and cautious – he calculates before he dreams and often does not allow himself to dream with a reckless freedom, as I can. He sees dollar signs and hard work. I tell him, “it cost nothing to dream – a dream is just a dream” The Beaver in him does every job in an impecable way – not satisfied unless it is perfect – and this takes time and patience and he is both.
Now I don’t know if I will ever get a fan or blower for the fireplace – it sure is nice to dream about it though, a fire that actually makes the room warm instead of going up the chimney. And it’s amazing how many creative ways I can make “dreams” happen – either by looking online, asking others – or researching articles and seeing what others have done. I’ve been lucky to find items for our home that have cost hardly anything – sometimes nothing at all! And Greg has the skill and patience to bring it about when I find a deal. We are a good team.
To me – it costs NOTHING to dream it. But it is amazing what happens when we dare to dream – things are possible.
What are you dreaming? Do you stop short because you are thinking about what it will cost you? If it didn’t cost anything – what would you dream?
- 20 Years Ago (cindyholman.wordpress.com)