My husband Greg does funeral services and wedding ceremonies for a living – it is his own small business – out of our home. He loves doing the memorials much better than the weddings – because he is highly relational – and feels a connection with each one of the people that he meets with and walks through the grieving process with. It is a unique gift – not everyone can do it. I know it would be difficult for me – I would get TOO involved in the emotion of it and would not be able to separate – and would be no help whatever. I’ve been at some of his services and I’m bawling like a baby from the grief that I feel for the family – and he is so composed and handles the stress and emotion of the moment so well.
He has noticed something special about the person who grieves – and can identify with the scripture, “blessed are they who mourn” because he has seen the powerful effect in a person’s life – and seen the hand of God touch those that grieve. There is a special unique quality in those who struggle.
We sometimes think that we are weak when we do – so we try to deny it – or push it down, pretending that we do not hurt or question or have any problems. But the truth is that God’s grace and mercy is poured out in a unique and special way to those of us that do.
I have seen those that have lost a loved one – my friend lost a young husband to cancer – I’ve witnessed those that have lost a child, a sibling – or a parent. It is the same grief. It is the same sadness. There are no words. It is a very private struggle. It is a private pain. But there is also something very special about those “who mourn”. For the promise for those that do – there is a time when there will be no more sadness – no more tears – no more separation – no more grief or regret. And God’s comfort can be very close and real to those that ache from pain here on earth – in a very real and personal way.
Pain is something that can make us strong – not weak if we allow Him to gently heal us over time – and though we do not forget – we are covered in peace and washed in love. In a daily – continual way. Events in our lives can draw us nearer to God – and He is right there as a constant companion in the good times of life – and in the dark times too.
And as my friend told me just today – it is important to know that when we struggle – God is looking down on us and saying, “You’re my favorite” and that is something that we can be assured of – that He not only understands – but He is working behind the scenes of our lives – going before us on our journey to bring people and events in our lives that are further confirmation that we are special to Him – and that He’s always thinking about us – whispering to us, “you are my favorite”.
I am praying for each and every one of you today – that as you struggle – you will remember these words of comfort and know that He is with you – you are not alone – you are special and His “favorite” today.