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Table games and online scrabble games such as “Words with Friends” and “Lexulous” have a way of not only being fun as you connect with other people whom you know – but also have a way of revealing just who that person is.
I have always been a game player. I love the strategy of games – and love Chess and monopoly for that reason. I guess you could say I’m competitive – but I’m not an angry competitor – I just love the game. Last night I taught my son-in-law to play Rook. It is a game of strategy – and he became very good at it – once he understood the rules. He is also my “Word with Friends” buddy – we both love playing scrabble.
In the last year I have found a new love for word games. I only play with people I know – and it helps me to find out a little more about them as we enter into a game.
For instance: I found out that there are many ways to play a good game of scrabble – (Lexulous on Facebook and iPhone – Words with friends only on the iPhone). I have learned so much from others about where to place my tiles – which letters to hang on to etc. – for the most points. It has stretched my vocabulary and sharpened my mind. I can scrabble pretty much anytime throughout the day – and it is not uncommon for me to be playing a game with about 10 people at the same time.
I found out something else about playing a game with a friend – you find out more about them. Nothing like a competitive game to bring out what someone is really made of – and how they will react. If you play a number of games – (one friend and I have played continually for about a year) – you see a pattern of intelligence and behavior – from being a great winner – or being a gracious loser. I have loved the many lessons I have learned from those way more gifted in the area of words and strategy than myself – and have them pour into me – to teach and be patient with me – applauding me on a great word – and encouraging me when I didn’t win a game. This kindness while playing a game – winning or losing – shows me what they are made of. And since males tend to be more competitive by nature – it is then really wonderful to see how caring and patient they are when playing with me.
Women don’t tend to be as competitive as men in the area of games – but there is an exception to every rule. I have seen both men and women get bent out of shape and put into a very bad mood when they lose at anything – including games. And that can spill out into everyday life for sure. Someone hot-headed about a game – tends to be hot-headed in life too. Check it and see.
So if you really want to know what your friends are made of – ask them to play a game with you – even Words with Friends – or Lexulous and soon it will be clear to you 🙂
*This is dedicated to my many scrabble buddies whom I have had the privilege of playing many games with. You inspire me – by your patience and understanding – most of all – you better me.
Play a game with a friend today 🙂
Cover of The Story of Us
When our children were small – we used to play a game at the dinner table – found in a movie with Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer called, “The Story of Us” – the game was called, ‘High-Low’.
The object of this game is to encourage conversation – even in the youngest member sitting at the table. Someone starts and could say, “Today my ‘high’ was getting a pedicure – and my ‘low’ was losing my keys” – It could be as simple as that – or you could expand on your points – as your personality and mood strikes you that day. We found that it caused everyone in our home to evaluate their day – reflect on only the best and the worst moment and then to share – it helped with the endless, ‘How was your day, dear?’ to their one word answer – ‘fine’.
After a few years – our daughter (4 years older than her brother) caught on to the ‘purpose’ of the ‘game’ – trying to provoke conversation from our pre-adolescent child – and she shut down and began to poke fun at the ‘game’ – and then of course – our son followed suit. *Sigh* – it was great while it lasted.
“The Story of Us’ – is a journey of one couple in love – but troubled. They have a typical story – meet when they are young – fall in love and get married – have a couple of children – settle into a routine – and find that slowly they have drifted apart. Their story is heart-warming, poignant and full of pain. It is the journey back to self discovery – and back to what’s important – each other. The ending will make you cry – as they discover at the end of the day – and the end of the relationship – they still love each other. Michelle’s speech at the end should have won her an academy award. Below is a music video with some of the pictures and scenes from the movie – and I encourage you to watch this if you’ve ever gone through trauma in your own marriage – and have ever contemplated ‘throwing in the towel’ and giving up.
I pray that you too will find that at the end of your day – and your journey – that you will remember what was really important – be able to throw out the yucky bad stuff and concentrate on the most important – love. And have your own ‘story’ to tell.