Aren’t you glad? Or are you?
Only God sees the true you – the good, bad and ugly. There’s no pretending, covering and dressing it up. It is what it is – to God, and God alone.
Today is a fresh day – with a chance to put things to right. Won’t you do it – today?
So – how’s your heart?
Happy February – God Bless!
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I was in the gym today with Greg when he said something that sparked a long humorous conversation. He was trying to tell me something – I didn’t hear correctly – started to interject something totally different – and he stopped me and said, ‘You’re just not hearing me – you’re not hearing my heart‘ Oh brother. I say ‘Oh brother’ because he is saying it with TONS of sarcasm in his voice – and a chuckle at my expense!!
This has been a part of our love relationship for years now. The differences in us that make us laugh. Greg making fun of women – (mainly me) and imitating all the silly ‘girly’ phrases and things we women do. It works for him – because he always manages to get some kind of reaction from me – and he likes that. And I tease and poke fun at him – when he becomes too serious – or too stuffy – and it always makes him laugh.
Men love to make fun of women. Case and Point: The movie ‘Titanic” – where the old Rose is saying about her memory of Jack (the man she loved) – ‘he saved me in every way a woman can be saved’. Greg loves to make fun at that movie – and especially cheesy lines like that. His first response is – ‘You’ve GOT to be kidding, right’? But I know what she meant by that line in the movie – women get it. Women understand these deep mysteries of feelings and emotions – and Men pretend they don’t. When probed – I have discovered that men really do get it – it’s just not ‘manly’ to admit it.
Now why is this? Men have feelings and emotions – this is for certain – and no one can hurt a man like a woman can. Remember the recent series “Men of a certain age”? Actor Ray Romano tells his son about women, ‘they have many ways they can hurt us”.
So if this is true – and men feel the same feelings about love and other things that we do – why is it considered weak – or ‘girly’ to admit it? Very few men will admit to crying at a sad movie – although I’ve seen both my husband and son do it – but not many others. Most men are guarded when it comes to expressing those ‘touchy feely’ feelings. And I believe it is drilled into them as little boys to be tough and not show emotion. That somehow it weakens them to admit they struggle – or have fear – or are afraid – or feel helpless in the midst of love – or can be hurt enough to cry. Remember the song in the 70’s by the group ’10cc’ where one of the lines is ‘Big boys don’t cry’? How sad that men believe this – how sad that they are made to feel they must be like this.
It is interesting that when you know a man – really know him – he is not afraid to reveal some of that emotion. But he must feel safe. And just because they don’t feel like they always can express emotions like a woman can – does not mean that they don’t have them.
I’ve been married to this man of mine for 29 years this Sunday – and one of the great things I’ve discovered is this: we are different – but we are basically the same underneath all the layers. Our emotions are basically the same – with different reactions to pain and hurt. We both know what it feels like to be vulnerable and misunderstood – or to be used and tossed aside. We both understand love and relationships – and have felt all sorts of emotions in relation to each other and in raising children. We both can still make each other laugh – and we’re great friends – even through some of the rough patches that life has thrown at us. And that’s so nice to know. ♥
He will continue to tease and make fun – I will continue to make him scratch his head in confusion – and make him laugh – it is our dance. And so our journey continues – with its mysteries and lessons – and its laughter. It is our story – it is our love relationship.
One of my favorite “Heart” songs – the guitar that Nancy plays is amazing!! Enjoy!
Heading out this morning into the sun
Riding on the diamond waves, little darlin’ one
Warm wind caress her
Her lover it seems
Dreamboat Annie my little ship of dreams
Going down the city sidewalk alone in the crowd
No one knows the lonely one whose head’s in the clouds
Sad faces painted over with those magazine smiles
Heading out to somewhere won’t be back for a while
I was teaching a piano lesson today. My student forgot her music. It was critical for her to have her music today for the recital that she is playing in – in a couple of weeks – and the song that she was playing just happened to be in the book she left at home. It could have been a disaster. While I have much of the music in a file in my office for such occasions as this – I did not have that particular piece that she is working on for the recital. I racked my brain thinking about what I was going to do so the time would not be wasted – I’m using all of the next few weeks in full concentration on the song that every student is either playing or singing. It was most frustrating – and I already had a tension headache from a rather demanding theater rehearsal! Ugh. But quickly I came up with a plan – I found out how much she could remember “by heart” – and I would fill in the rest. This was hard – and it took much patience on both our parts – but after repeating each measure over and over – we found that we could remember and learn the entire first half of the song in the limited time we had. It was a little painful – but in the end I think she will actually appreciate going home now and having the written music in front of her – after her hard work – and learning it from the actual music will seem less painful after doing some strenuous workout for her memory.
It’s amazing what you bring to mind – and recall – “from heart” when you need to. It’s funny how we can remember – when we need to.
There’s a Jim Brickman song that I love. These lyrics express it all:
“Even if we’re worlds apart – I’ll find my way back to you – by heart”
I love this. This is the cry of the heart. The heart that never forgets. The heart that knows whom it loves.
My prayer for you tonight – is that you always remember what the heart does – by heart.