Yesterday I watched two very sad things on TV that I had recorded earlier. One was a movie I had seen a few years back starring Betty White called “The Lost Valentine“. Not sure if the movie is based in fact – but it could have been. The premise: A young married couple during WWII, the husband called away for duty. She gets a telegram saying her husband is missing in action. For over 60 years. A young female television reporter hears about the story and becomes curious. After interviewing the elderly woman who has never had any other word from her husband or the war department after that fateful day of the telegram, the young woman sets about to do some investigating. Through a series of events and a lot of digging she finds a man who was with the missing man in the jungle across the sea, during his last days. Through a Skype call to the widow – he is able to tell her what happened to her husband all those years ago. He was a hero. He could have come home – but wanted a man more seriously injured than himself to be allowed to go first. There was only room for one man. He stays and helps those men there in the jungle – gets caught in a cross-fire and is shot and killed.
What a relief to finally hear. It’s the not knowing that will kill you. They confirm the remains of her husband and in true pomp “military style” they bring him home and parade him past his widow. That scene is very moving. I did not expect the flood of tears – but they came anyway.
If that was not sad enough, last night we watched “Downton Abbey“. The episode was very sad as well. In the days before C-sections, mothers and babies were often lost due to serious complications. Seeing the youngest daughter die after delivering her baby with something called eclampsia from toxemia was very hard to watch. And might have been prevented if they had taken their doctor’s advice to have her moved to a hospital and have immediate removal of the baby. In the early part of the last century – it was not something that was done very often – and people simply did not trust hospitals because of sickness and possible infection. Oh my. Things that are prevented today with proper medication and hospitals.
My own maternal grandmother lost her first baby while delivering at home and too far from a hospital when a serious issue came up. Today this would not have happened.
I cried so much yesterday because of these two very sad things. Of course my lack of sleep (we have a new 5 month old puppy that we rescued) might have contributed to my general feeling of sadness. But I have heard that tears are healthy. It’s great to have a “good cry” once in a while. It resets the switches and cleans out the toxins. I have always wondered about this – as the only thing it seems to do for me is give me bags under my eyes and a whopping good headache!
What about you? Ever had a good cleansing cry? Did you feel better or worse? Do you feel that it is healthier just getting it out?
Not sure about me – but I have always been emotional and prone to tear up. Sometimes I wish this was not so – it tends to happen at the most undesirable times!
Here’s hoping you have that good healthy release of emotions and toxins in your body today! Maybe a good cry?
- Downton Abbey Watch: The Good, The Bad and The Absolutely Terrible (entertainment.time.com)
- Cora Crawley Shouldn’t Forgive Robert For ‘Downton’ Death (hollywoodlife.com)
- Oh No! Not Lady Sybil! (reaching4hishem.wordpress.com)
- Downton Watch: The Good, The Terrible (entertainment.time.com)
- ‘Downton Abbey’ Death: How Eclampsia Killed Beloved Character (hollywoodlife.com)
- ‘Downton Abbey’: About that twist… (+video) (csmonitor.com)
- ‘Downton Abbey’ is hit with tragedy (theclicker.today.com)
- Eclampsia: 5 things you need to know (cnn.com)
- a lesson learned from a grief so big (protectionnotweapons.wordpress.com)
- Betty White and Jennifer Love Hewitt star in ‘The Lost Valentine’ (Photos) (examiner.com)