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The happiest people in the world have learned a valuable lesson. They know how to laugh. It doesn’t mean trouble doesn’t happen to them – nor does it mean that they never fall onto hard times – have tragedy strike them – or the unexplained circumstances befall them – it means that they have learned the secret of true joy. They have learned to find humor in everything and also be able to laugh at themselves.
I am blessed – I have many friends who bring laughter to me on a daily basis. I will wake up some mornings and have those that have messaged me with notes of fun, mischief and good humor – and I know it’s going to be a good day – filled with fun.
There is so much said on the subject of laughter – the many health benefits and the fact that it keeps you ‘young at heart’ and looking and feeling youthful for years to come – and we can all use that!!
My husband and I laugh ALL THE TIME. Everything is funny to us. Not that we don’t have our serious ‘talks’ and ‘moments’ like everyone else – but we also laugh much of the day. My children are filled with laughter and a healthy sense of humor – all the time! We all love to laugh! I have many stories about both of them – and there is no one that can bring me such laughter like my husband and kids!
I am doubly blessed with a circle of friends that are great fun too. Always a funny comment and word of fun and encouragement – let’s face it – life is serious enough just left on its own – sometimes we NEED laughter just to make it through the day.
I believe a great many of the world’s problems would be lightened if people would just LAUGH – and find the humor in situations. We as a nation have become much too serious – and I am aiming that remark at you and me. If we didn’t take ourselves so seriously – the stress would be lifted and a good many health problems would decrease too. Laughter really does act on a person’s overall health like a tonic. Want to increase your life and have better health? Learn to laugh – not just a chuckle or too – REALLY LAUGH – BIG BELLY LAUGHS – many times a day.
Try bringing laughter to your own circle of friends. Make someone laugh today – it will make their day – and yours too!
I came across this video today as I was browsing through blogs – and you HAVE to watch this – it will tickle your funny bone!! I LOVE people from the south!!
I posted something today on my facebook page about laughter and it got me thinking about marriage and laughter. There are many reasons why a marriage fails – even those that start out with good intentions. Oh sure, there are outside forces that hit you blindsided – we all know about those things – and finances (or lack of them) can also be a key contributor to failure. But more than these I believe that at the very root of the issue is this: Married couples forget to laugh. Now I’m not talking about the little chuckle you get from something funny one of your kids did today – or a funny email or status update on facebook from one of your friends – or even a great humorous story – I’m talking about laughing with each other – sharing a joke together – or a secret and poking fun at the other and finding it so funny! When was the last time your spouse made you REALLY LAUGH? When was the last time – YOU were funny and not so serious? Life is serious enough without adding to it – and sometimes you just need to take a ‘chill pill’ and just laugh. Laugh at the absurd – laugh at the ridiculousness of your situation – laugh at the irony of life – enjoy your spouse and find something together to laugh at! A healthy married couple smiles and laughs all the time.
Another reason marriages are in trouble is this: Married people forget how to listen. You’re so used to that person – after a while if they’re not saying anything worth listening to – we tune them out. It is an art form to learn how to listen well – but well worth it. We were a marriage that had forgotten how to do this – I didn’t feel I had my husband’s full attention anymore – he had forgotten how to listen to me and meet my emotional needs.
Develop a healthy sense of humor with your spouse and listen to them – really listen. If you listen long enough – believe me – you will bond with them again – you’ll be able to share secrets and find that laughter too. It will be there – decide that YOU will not wait for them – decide that you are going to turn your marriage around. Get your ‘mischievousness’ on! You will ignite something in your spouse – a passion that you forgot was ever there.
And finally – I think the reason that marriages are in trouble is this: Somewhere along the way – you forgot to like your spouse. You say, “Oh – but you don’t understand – I wouldn’t ever think of leaving them” – You may even say that you ‘love’ them – in the traditional Christian way (of course) and if push comes to shove and they really tick you off and you’re at the end of your rope you might consider murder – but NOT divorce – NEVER! You say, “Not me! This would never happen to us! But I don’t have to like them – I’m committed.” HOGWASH!! You are setting yourself up for a failure with this attitude. What if someone comes into your life that really likes you – admires you – and treats you like your spouse doesn’t? There’s a fine line between tolerance and indifference – don’t be foolish. It happens all the time.
I like my husband. I didn’t always feel this way. Oh I suppose I got used to him – he is an excellent man in every way – good father – wonderful friend to many – but for me – I had forgotten to like him. So like many of you out there – I had a choice to make. Do I want to start over and learn how to like him again – find the laughter and the reason that I picked him in the first place? Can it be done? We’re used to each other – but do I really like him? It took many months of talking and really listening to each other to discover that we were solid as good friends – even if we hadn’t been married to each other. We had to rediscover that again – we had to ‘date’ again to make that connection – and we DID! And you can too. I can honestly say now that I not only love Greg – and am committed – but I also like him.
I found this very cute and humorous video on marriage from the comedic and married team of Stiller and Meara – married over 50 years. It’s adorable and has some great truths in it – they use laughter in their relationship and they have also found that they actually like one another after all the years together.
My friend Ron STOLE this from me after reminding him of ‘the rules’ a few months back. He liked them so much and I’m assuming agrees with each and every one of them that he even posted them today on his blog site. Hope you will enjoy them as much as we did!
via Weatherstone’s Blog
This last weekend my daughter and I had a garage sale at our home in the Pacific Northwest – where it is GORGEOUS and totally unpredictable, as far as the weather forecast goes. Not that we were going to let that stop us – Oh NO – we were going to have our sale no matter what! But the week leading into the sale I was starting to have serious second thoughts. Although the weather for the ‘sale’ weekend was going to be low 80’s and nice – the week leading up to it was not just a little warm – it was record-breaking HOT! There were a few days in a row that I simply couldn’t price or pull things for the sale any more – I would use up all my energy in the morning and then when it was really HOT I would be reduced to a mere shell of my former self. I would get REALLY GRUMPY and say, “Why did I agree to do this again???” Good grief.
Just a side-note, I have been trying to get rid of this ‘junk’ for years now – and would say to Greg every year that our community was having a yard sale – “you know…. we could have one too and clean out all that junk” and every year it was the same answer, “I hate garage sales”. And so he still does. It was only when our delightful daughter said to me, “I’ll have one with you” that we finally wore Greg down. My confession: I have wanted to clean out that garage for years – and finally I would have it cleaned out! Yay me!!!! Shhhhh! Don’t tell Greg.
The day finally came and we ‘unrolled’ our swollen garage with everything known to man – and all the things we had discarded over the seven years we have lived in this house. The day was BEAUTIFUL and we had people swarming all over the place – even before we were completely set up. Several very humorous things happened that day including some skinny guy wanting to buy my son-in-law’s rather LARGE shorts – and trying them on right there over his clothes – and then buying a pair of MY capris for himself to wear – it was extremely amusing and I didn’t have the heart to tell him that those were women’s pants – would you? He seemed so thrilled to find them. Hey – guys can wear capris too – just ask our friend Chuck!
Anyway – and so it went the whole day – the hotter and later in the day – the more humorous everything was. I was especially amused at how people will ‘dicker’ over .50 cents – like it’s the principle of the thing at stake! So funny. I think the highlight for Ashlee was having someone pay her $5.00 in pennies, nickels and dimes for a brand new sushi set she was selling. Good times.
Well as luck would have it – Greg had a wedding and had to leave before our first day was over – and Drew had a golf game – so Ashlee and I, hot and tired had to think of a way to carry/push/drag everything that we could fit back into the garage. It was HILARIOUS – because we were trying to close up and they were still coming!! Ashlee had to leave – and then I had to cover up the remaining items with a big tarp and just wait for Greg to come and help me arrange the garage so we could better fit the 3 large tables left in our driveway – back into the garage. He came 3 hours later. My Confession: I really hate it when the men all LEAVE the cleanup and heavy lifting to us!! Why do they always seem to go away just when you really need them? Oh I got over it – it was just exhausting by myself.
Needless to say – even though I sat in the shade and took money all day – and my lovely daughter ‘sunned’ herself beside me – guess who burned?? Me!! I guess I was in the sun more than I thought. And I seem to be the only one with bug bites ALL OVER my body. It’s embarrassing to sit and scratch – but really – what can I do? The bugs seem to LOVE me. I can’t do anything about it – new ones show up on me everyday. I look around me – no one else seems to be affected – WHAT’S THE DEAL? I thought – maybe the sunscreen would help to keep them away from me – so the next day – even though it was a little cooler and overcast – I decided from the get go that I would smear myself up with sunscreen. My Confession: It DIDN’T help. Day two was not nearly as busy – people sleep in on Sunday and come later – so we had time to straighten and arrange this time – it was nice. By the end of the day – we had people come and take a bunch of our stuff for free – we still had to box up the left overs and put tables away. But we made a ‘decent’ profit – I guess. What is ‘decent’ anyway? My Confession: It was way more trouble than it was worth – and unless you sell big-ticket items and the right people come by and buy them – you’re better off selling things on Craigslist and eBay. But it was an experience. And fun to see and meet many different people – and our neighbors that live down the street that we don’t usually see. And a former neighbor that we reconnected with. Good times. For this reason – everyone should have a garage sale – at least once in their lives – do it for the sheer joy of it. Like me ☺
My ‘ever funny’ friend Ron – (who also has a deep serious side as well) – had this on his blog site today and I just had to share – for all you “Mom’s” out there! I’m sure you have a few you could add to this list – and you’re welcome to do so by leaving me a comment! Enjoy!
via Weatherstone’s Blog
A few years ago Greg and I were eating dinner at a Shari’s restaurant close to where we live. We were having pleasant conversation – exchanging ‘niceties’ about the day when suddenly Greg looked at me and said, “Shhhh!! – did you hear that?” I looked around and listened as hard as I could – but could not hear anything. So I replied, “No dear – I did not hear anything.” He said, “No really – it was like a weird ‘metallic’ sound!” Well since I did not know what a ‘metallic’ sound – sounds like – I was at a loss. He shrugged it off and we went back to our conversation. A few minutes later he stopped me again – this time with a hand gesture raised to stop me from talking, while turning his head he said, “Shhhh! There it is again!” Well by this time I really thought he was losing it – so I said, “Does it sound like something is trying to communicate with you – on a different frequency? – Is it the MOTHER SHIP?”
Needless to say he did not think it was funny – and I tried SO hard not to giggle but come on – it WAS pretty funny. He kept insisting that something was happening – and it would only happen when either of us started talking again – pretty bizarre. This went on for about 15 minutes or so – until my poor husband thought he was losing his mind. I could tell that he wasn’t really ‘with me’ in the restaurant anymore – he had that ‘far off’ look in his eyes – the same look he has when he’s listening more to the people talking directly behind him in a booth – than to me. It’s annoying how easily distracted he is! This rarely happens to me – I am usually so focused on the person I’m with and the conversation that a hurricane could be going on around me and I probably wouldn’t even notice.
Case and point: I was with my friend Melody about a month ago at a local Starbucks for a ‘coffee date’. We were heavily engaged in deep meaningful conversation. Little did I know that behind the scenes the people who work there (they know me because my daughter works there – and they all call me Mom) were playing a little game – trying to get my attention. The manager and assistant manager were trying to see who would be able to get me to look away from Melody first – and because I was facing toward them when talking to Melody – they thought, “piece of cake”. They do not know me. They do not know that I am not easily dissuaded or thrown off track – even though they were waving their arms WILDLY in the air!!! I think they did EVERYTHING short of actually SHOUTING out my name! Ashlee told me about this later that day – I was so surprised! I saw nothing.
So back to the Shari’s and Greg hearing something unusual. He paid the check and we stood up and were turning to pass another table behind where Greg was sitting and saw a nice older gentleman with a mechanical voice box. If you’ve ever heard them – they make an unusual sound – something like R2-D2 from “Star Wars” makes. And Greg smiled as we walked by – he was not crazy after all! “I told you I heard something” – he whispered.
So yesterday we were having a very late dinner at a local Teriyaki place. We were eating our favorite chicken, salad and rice – the Christian radio station was playing music in the speakers just above my head. We were talking about normal ordinary things – when all of a sudden I heard something. I said to Greg, “Shhh! Did you hear that?” He looked around and then back at me and said, “No”. Hmmmm. It stopped. I waited. Nothing. So we continued to talk again. A few minutes later I heard it again. It was directly to my left – an empty table – in fact we were the only ones in the little place. But it was coming from the table – I was so sure. When I told Greg where it was coming from – he said, “Are the salt and pepper shakers trying to communicate to you?” Nice – I guess I deserved it. I mean normally I would hear nothing – even if the world was falling apart – but this was really strange.
It was determined that it must have been an alarm in the kitchen that was making a sound through the kitchen door and down to where our table was – giving the impression that the sound was coming from right next to me. It was bizarre – and now I know how Greg felt in that Shari’s. You really do feel like you’re losing it. I’m glad to know that I am still in my right mind – at least most of the time – but if you ask me about it – I will still say, “I DID hear something – I really did!”
Here’s hoping you have a wonderful evening and that if you hear unexplainable sounds – just let them happen. It’s okay. I believe you.