Greg and I are on the verge of launching our baby out into the world. The count down has begun – he leaves for California next month.
And while we have really been “Empty Nesters” for a while – you know what I mean – daughter Ashlee moved out 3 years ago – and from the moment Shawn had a driver’s license (on his 16th birthday) – we didn’t see much of him after that. People think I’m kidding when I say that Shawn eats and sleeps here – sometimes. It’s absolutely true. It is still going to be an adjustment around here.
We have plans after Shawn leaves next month. We are going to go into his room with gloves on and several garbage bags and begin the grueling process of fumigation and bringing normal back into chaos – the room of a teenage boy.
My car that Shawn has taken possession of the last 3 years – will once again be MINE! A little worse for wear – but still paid for and MINE! Did I mention that the car is MINE? Just in case you are confused in that matter – I know that I have been. Oh you know what I mean – you have a conversation with your teenager and you end up leaving the room muttering someone non-coherent like, “I’m right – I KNOW I am” as you feel all reality slipping from your fragile grasp. So when I say I was confused – I really mean it.
We plan to clean the inside and outside of MY car – and fumigate it – so that it does NOT smell like a boy’s locker room. My CD’s will finally be right where I left them – there will be no sticky stuff in the cup holder and on the seats – there will not be wrappers and other junk in MY car. It will be left in pristine condition – just as I always have left it – BEFORE my son got his license and decided to take ownership.
We will have quiet at night when we turn in. No more yelling or calling Shawn on the phone to get him to TURN DOWN the TV that we can hear in our bedroom. No more late night cooking food and smelling it wafting upstairs where we are trying to sleep. No more late showers and running water FOREVER next to our bedroom. No more talking on the phone in the middle of the night – or hopping up the stairs and slamming doors (because he always forgets) – to wake us up. None of that – just peaceful, blissful quiet.
Yes – we are preparing for absence – just as much as Shawn is anxious to be out on his own. We worry just a little about how he will pay his bills – and survive out there – but we also realize that it is a part of his growing up – to be out on his own and figure it out.
I hope we have prepared him. He is very grounded and mature for almost 20 – and most of all – he is a loving, kind and generous person – full of talent, laughter and fun – has many friends and has always landed on his feet – through rough times and setbacks. I’m proud of him and can’t wait to see what God has next for him – as he discovers his own place in this world. God has equipped him with a love for music and a talent that is his special gift – I’m excited to see how God will use that in him.
And so as we prepare – with a little over a month to go – we know we are also ready.
And there’s always iChat and Skype, right?