Musings From A Musical Mind

Posts tagged ‘Tyler Perry’

Are You A Leaf, A Branch Or A Root?

Tyler Perry in the Star Trek movie

Image by via Flickr

I borrowed the following video found on youtube – from a friend on facebook and shared it on my wall.  But if you are not a friend of mine on there – you would not have seen it.  It is typical Tyler Perry comedy – him playing one of his characters, Madia.  I love this because even though Madia is not ‘religious’ and has no claim to even being ‘moral’ she has many good things to say that are just ‘common sense’  and sound advice to those in bad relationships – and about relationships that all of us have in our lives.  It is done with such openness and authenticity – it made me chuckle – but also made me say to myself, ‘she really gets it’.

I particularly like what she says about the people who come and go in our lives and how she likens them to either, leaves, branches or roots.  I have had people in my life fall in all three categories – and she is very accurate – you will see.  The leaves and branches people can really mess you up – leave you ‘high and dry’ – but they teach us something – usually one thing that we can hang on to.  The root people are the people who are in it for life.  I’m not talking about family – because family has to – it’s their job and no one can help who they are related to.   But other friendships that don’t have to – have no ‘family’ obligation to you.  They are just there because they love you – no matter what.  These are the people you enjoy doing life with – because they ‘get you’ – and you ‘get them’.

Watch for Tyler Perry having a hard time staying in character – pretty funny stuff – and I bet you’ll be agreeing with me that – Madia may be a little eccentric – but she’s RIGHT ON.

Enjoy and God Bless!

My Top Ten Movies ‘Picks’

Cover of "Sense & Sensibility (Special Ed...

Cover of Sense & Sensibility (Special Edition)

The other day –  my friend Sharon was enlisting help from her girlfriends – to help her choose our favorite movies – (aka: chick flicks) and being, first of all a girl – AND a great lover of film AND romance, drama AND  inspiring musical scores – I thought I would make up a list of my ‘top ten’ favorites – at least up to this moment in time.  This list may change – but for now – here it is – in my own humble opinion.

1)  Sense and Sensibility – with Emma Thompson, Kate Winslet and Hugh Grant.  I am a HUGE fan of anything Jane Austin – but this movie has great acting AND a beautiful haunting musical score too – and makes it a winner.  This is about sisters that have many things happen to them – including great poverty and grief – and yet still remain constant in their love for each other.  It is a different role then you’ll ever see Hugh Grant in – and I loved it.  He was adorable.   I laughed AND cried – and see something new every time I see it.  An interesting note:  Emma Thompson is actually married in real life to the actor that played her sister’s ‘love interest’ in the movie.  The man who turns out to have a bit of a black heart – and loves money more than Mariann.  It is also a DVD with ‘extras’ and has the commentary by Emma Thompson – which is very informative (great things going on behind the scenes – and great way of setting up some of the scenes).  It is a film that you never grow tired of – because it is a ‘period-piece’ – and is always as current as the day it came out in the theater.

2)  Only You – with Robert Downing Jr. and Marissa Tomei.  About a woman who is convinced her ‘soul mate’ is out there somewhere after playing a game as a kid and having his name spelled out.  She grows up – tries to forget about him – is even engaged to another man – UNTIL she receives a chance phone call from the name she has been waiting for her whole life.  She begins a hilarious ‘romp’ through Italy to find him. It is one of the most romantic movies because of its setting in Europe and the musical score is genius.  Another movie you can watch over and over – with the hilarious Bonnie Hunt as the best friend who travels with her.

3) To Kill A Mocking Bird – with Gregory Peck – made in the early 60’s – it is a masterpiece.  And if you loved the book – you’ll love the movie – although not true entirely to some of the storyline – it is still powerful and stays true to the main theme in the book – which is prejudice in a small southern town in the 1930’s – and one man’s fight against the system.  Powerful and strong performances from the child actors – and in the DVD there are many ‘extras’ and interviews with those ‘children’ now adults and their take on looking back on the filming.  I love the interview with Gregory Peck and his story about meeting the author of this masterpiece, Harper Lee – and just what she said to him – you’ll laugh right out loud!  We watch this every Halloween as a family – it’s our family tradition – and probably the best ‘father/son’ movie you’ll ever see.  Gets my husband EVERY time!!

4)  Meet Joe Black – with Anthony Hopkins and Brad Pitt.  This is a remake of the silent film, ‘Death takes a holiday’ – where ‘death’ takes on a human form and wanders around to learn about ‘life’.  Brad Pitt plays death – and it’s his best role (in my opinion)  very challenging to play – I mean, How do you play death?  But play it – he does and even with a little dry humor which is delightful.  Anthony Hopkins plays the man whom ‘death’ wants to come and visit and get a tour of ‘life’.  The acting is excellent – the banter very humorous and very serious at the same time – and again the musical score is pure genius.  I even borrowed it for a theater production of “Our Town’ several years ago – and I think all the students AND the audience were bawling at the end!  I love music that does that!

5) Age of Innocence – with Michelle Pfeiffer. Winona Ryder and Daniel Day-Lewis – A ‘period-piece’ set in the late 1800’s  to  about 1950.  Beautiful story about the way things were done in the upper classes in New York City.  Unrequited love in its most simple and unique form – a family class structure that is set and unmovable.  The musical score is beautiful – you will be transported back in time.  I find myself watching this one over and over – and it is as fresh today as when it first came out on DVD.

6)  Sabrina – with Julia Ormond and Harrison Ford – I actually like this remake better than the original with Audrey Hepburn – because to me Humphrey Bogart is just not right for the role – and Harrison Ford is PERFECT!  Timeless story of a poor chauffeur’s daughter that goes to find herself in Europe all the while in love with the boy back home.  It’s delightful and has many surprises of its own.  I believe that it’s Harrison’s best role in a romantic comedy – and I can watch it over and over.  Very funny and moving story!

7)  While you were sleeping – my favorite Sandra Bullock movie of all times.  She’s adorable in this.  About a girl who’s in love with someone from afar – until one day she is thrust into his life – because she saves his – and puts her into a series of events where everyone assumes that she not only knows him – but is engaged to him!  Very funny and very moving at times – one I love to watch over and over – it will make you laugh and cry.

8) Fried Green Tomatoes – with Kathy Bates and Mary Stuart Masterson – a trip into the past – through loss, grief, eternal friendship and a bond that supersedes death.  This is hilarious – and then so sobering it will make you shiver.  A must see for all Kathy Bates fans.  My favorite Mary Stuart Masterson movie – a real gem.  Great musical score too.

9)  Diary of a Mad Black Woman – one of Tyler Perry’s masterpieces. This story is about love, loss, and forgiveness.  It is so worth watching for the Christian message but also for the great humor and multiple characters created and acted out by Tyler Perry.  Loved it.  It will make you laugh and cry.  And you will cheer at the end!

10)  Emma – the Kate Beckinsale version.  Another Jane Austin masterpiece – well acted and thought-provoking with much humor and love.  I highly recommend seeing it.

Look for part two soon – as I have many more movie delights I would love to share with you – and look forward to reading what your top ten favorites are!

God Bless!

Water Your Own Lawn

Manicured lawns

Image by Mary Anne Mohanraj via Flickr

Marriage is like lawn. The grass is not greener on the other side. It is greener where it is watered, weeded, and fertilized. Take care of your lawn my friends.                    John Morauski

Oh – people laugh about ‘The grass is always greener”  but it’s true – that nice plush green grass also NEEDS to be mowed.

It is built-in to our DNA to be curious.  To want things.  To see with our eyes and taste with our emotions – things that look lovely and feel so good.  To pursue ‘uncharted’ territory.  To obtain – gather and to conquer.

It is also built into our character to be loyal, stable, and comfortable.  To build a home with someone – to ‘nest’ and stay committed.

Sometimes the two of these seem to be at cross purposes.  The divorce rate is high – the highest it has ever been.  But I think the problem dates back as far back as the origins of man – and original sin.    I’m sure even WAAAAAAY back there – someone saw someone else (other than their spouse) and thought they looked pretty nice – and found out that they had things in common and ‘chemistry‘ with them.  And wondered….’hmmmm – where have you been all my life’  Ahhhh – the ultimate seduction.

This is a complicated situation – especially if there are ‘problems’ and ‘issues’ with the one you are living with.  It’s hard work to stay ‘fresh’ and ‘fun’ – year after year.  Anyone else can seem so uncomplicated and easier – have all the right things to say – even be thoughtful and kind  and feel like a little bit of freedom – especially if you are unhappy at home.

It is the ultimate trap of emotions.  It is what was said in Tyler Perry‘s movie “Why did I get married” – ‘you end up leaving the 80% for the 20% – only to find out that once you left – you now have only 20% – and you should have stayed and tried to work on that 80%’

That is the ultimate test.  That 20% still needs maintenance – and much more work.  Ugh.  More work???? And those nasty feelings of  regret.  How many times have you or I heard someone say, “I should have worked harder on my first marriage”

This is how it happens:  You can have great chemistry with your spouse – at least to start out.  You decide to get married.  It seems like you can’t live without each other.  You just know it will be okay and life will be wonderful – you won’t even have to work that hard – things seem to click and work really well.  But even in the most ideal of relationships – something happens.  Children, age, stress, loss of a job or a career, problems with family, loss of attraction for each other. You stop watering your lawn.

So things look better somewhere else. After all – their grass is much greener – looks well cared for – they even use fertilizer on theirs and take special care that it is mowed and always looks inviting and lovely.

It is a trap.  It leaves you empty.  And remember – their grass seems greener.  You didn’t have to work on it with them. It is only green until you step over to their lawn – and then you can see that it needs to be mowed.  From a distance it looked great.

But your grass looks green and plush to someone from afar too.  Always remember that.  It is only when someone comes in close – that the flaws in your lawn begin to show.

Keep your grass-green to your spouse.


Marriage needs special attention – especially as we age.  You need to ‘tune in’ much more as life happens and things happen to change us along the way.  Watering and fertilizing is as simple as just paying attention. Make sure that you are the one investing valuable time and energy in the relationship – not someone else.

This is important for women as well as the men.  Divorce rate is up – more and more women are leaving the relationship – it used to be that just men left for a pretty ‘young thing’ at the office.  Not anymore.  Women who are unhappy and unsatisfied in a marriage will leave for someone who notices them and makes them feel special again – and they can be easy prey for men who are willing and able to ‘fill in’ emotionally.  And men will leave for someone who understands and admires them again.

If you think you are safe – think again.

Are you putting emotional and physical energy into your relationship with your spouse?  Do you take them for granted and say to yourself, ‘they will always be here – I don’t have to do anything special’.  That’s what everyone has said and thought – only to have their spouse walk out on them.  Don’t let it happen to you.  Don’t be caught unaware.

Water your lawn.  Care for it daily.  Apply fertilizer to help it grow plush and green.  Use your words and your gestures to make things green and healthy in your relationship.  Make it your first priority.  Don’t leave it to chance.  Don’t leave it to someone else – who can seem to do the job better than you. Make sure you have  heathy green grass to romp around in – with your spouse. And only for your spouse.

Take care of your lawn my friends’ – is the best advice you’ll ever hear.

God Bless

Tag Cloud

diana iannarone

Wake Up. Stand Up. Live Free. A Perceptual Approach to Rapid Growth and Permanent Change


Conscious Thought: Driven by Intelligent Awareness

The Devotion Cafe'

Love and Empowerment

Poems & People

what if poems could be symphonies, and people their orchestra?

The Fickle Heartbeat

A blog about love or lack thereof

knitting soul

turning the knots into something beautiful

Kristi Ann's Haven

Jesus-Yeshua Saves!!


Godinterest is dedicated to proclaiming Christ and set apart, to save and empower lives.

The Light Post

Scott & Christina Graff

Natalie Breuer

Natalie. Writer. Photographer. Etc.

iwedplanner wedding vendors

This site is the bee's knees

Granny Smith: Unleashed

Observations and random thoughts from a "not so teenager."




Finding Clear and Simple Faith



Brendan Cole - Writer

Musings On Life and Other Minutiae

Chickens Bring Peace to the Earth

Slow down, pray, make better choices


Romance of Five Clouds and Magical Poetry


Walking in the Favor Of God


Education is Everything

Upside DIY

Born from the love of, "Do It Yourself" attitude!

Soul Access


Traveling with Thomas

Follow me as I study in London and travel Europe

HarsH ReaLiTy

A Good Blog is Hard to Find

Life Confusions

"I Will Find Words, Smith them Down. For Love Is Infinite And So Are They."

ann johnson-murphree

Artist, Writer of Confessional Free Verse Poetry and Fiction

Ed Mooney Photography

The official blog of Ed Mooney Photography. Dad of 3, Photographer, Martial Artist, Gym Rat & Blogger. Exploring the historical sites of Ireland.


”Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life.” -- Picasso.


poems & stories, thoughts about people and places between moments of clarity, or not.


Poetry that purrs. It's reowr because the cat said so.

A Blumes With a View

Putting the "blah" in blog!!

The Low Low Style

Why do high low when you can keep it on the low low?

Ray Ferrer - Emotion on Canvas

** OFFICIAL Site of Artist Ray Ferrer **


Want to see what an Instagram with no pictures looks like? @allmostrelevant

My Good Time Stories

Inspirational, Motivational, and Heartwarming Stories


All things unpublishable.

Book of Mohs

The adventures of an softhearted father

Did Jesus have a Facebook Page?

Christianity 0ut of the Box

%d bloggers like this: