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Are You Present?

Queen of the day

Queen of the day (Photo credit: simon.hucko)

 

Last weekend I was invited to go with Greg as he officiated a wedding.  The venue was the Columbia Winery nestled in a scenic part of Woodinville, Washington.

 

This was a unique gathering – most were relatives of ours, although we had never met the bride and I can’t remember meeting the groom either.   Greg has a long history with the step father of the groom – it is his Uncle (just 2 years older than himself)  and had in fact also officiated this Uncle’s wedding just 10 years ago.

The young couple was married on a romantic beach in Lake Tahoe last summer so this ceremony was simply a formality for the relatives and friends who live here in Seattle.

 

What I observed was something I usually do not see at a wedding.  I was watching the bride throughout the ceremony.  She was having fun!  She would look around the room and notice all those in attendance and smile in recognition.  She was present in the moment.  She did not have tunnel vision – she saw everyone.

 

How nice not to be tired, nervous, hyper focused and mentally absent – like most brides are on their wedding day.  The pressure was off for this bride – since she was already married – she could enjoy herself fully – nothing to worry about – just have fun and enjoy her guests.  What a concept.

 

I wonder how many of us actually enjoy events that are a BIG DEAL.  Like our wedding day?  How many of us can say we are present in the moment of important days?  Most of us get so caught up in things being a certain way that we can’t enjoy the moment when it happens.

 

This year I plan to be present in the moment for all the upcoming festivities.  Thanksgiving is next week – and so what if my house isn’t perfect.  I will not wear myself out in planning and preparing – and lose sight of what really is important.  I will get my proper rest and be able to enjoy the day.  Christmas is looming ever closer with gatherings, a recital and a trip to California to see Shawn.  I am going to enjoy each one of those things – concentrate on being present for each one of them.  I will not be robbed of what is really important and be too tired physically and emotionally drained.

 

When I am relaxed in mind and body I am able to take in and give out.  Like a bride already married on her wedding day – I will be ready, relaxed and at peace.

 

 

 

God Bless

 

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30 Years Ago #4

30 years ago – tomorrow 🙂

God Bless

30 Years Ago – #2

Anyone have a great caption for this crazy picture?

30 Years Ago

This month marks 30 years that Greg and I have been married. So for the next five days (our actual anniversary is on Labor Day) I will be posting a “blast from the past” picture.

The above picture was taken when we became engaged the end of March, 1981. Look how young we were. Can anyone really tell what life is going to be like when you are that young? We certainly did not. We had not known ministry jobs and complications – financial reversal and two children – who would grow up to make us so proud. We only knew that for us – the world was pretty small – as we planned our upcoming September 5th wedding, and tried to get through another semester of college.

Where were you 30 years ago?

God Bless

Learning To Shut Up

This is not an easy story to tell.  I’m ashamed of myself to tell you the truth – and like you – I’m on a journey.  I hope this helps someone today – to see that it’s always better to HOLD YOUR TONGUE.

Last Saturday I went with my husband Greg on a day adventure and road trip.  He had a burial service and a wedding on the same day – which seem to happen quite a bit to him.  I enjoyed playing with my iPhone in the lobby of the funeral home while he and the family went to the graveside (did I mention it was raining?).  I was happily minding my own business when a lady who worked there came in and saw me sitting in this big lobby all by myself and said in a rather loud voice to a co-worker – “what is she doing there?”  Now I suppose it was the way she said it that was the most irritating – and made me want to say something snarky – but I held my tongue.  The co-worker who had seen me with Greg before the service and had no doubt put two and two together and was not alarmed that I would choose to be in there – out of the rain.  So she began to explain it to the woman who just entered the building.  It was quite amusing to me – I mean after all – I was just sitting there!

I told Greg as we were on the way to a small town near Mt. Rainier – for his next gig – a small country wedding.  And began a topic of great discussion – and much chuckling 🙂

The wedding was supposed to take place out-of-doors – but with the cold and rain – they had to go to Plan B – indoors at this quaint little country Inn.  It was simple and beautiful with about 50 people – small and intimate.  The wedding was upstairs and I remember walking up and being greeted with a friendly smile from the DJ.  He was behind a table of equipment and a sound board and was playing some really nice classical music as everyone was getting into place – setting the mood.  Ahhhh – so nice. There was a very pretty young woman with pink streaks in her hair – she appeared to be helping him at the table.  She also smiled at me.  I smiled back – isn’t life good?

The wedding was short and sweet – there were several toasts to the bride and groom by family and friends – some lights snacks served – and about an hour and a half to wait before a formal seated dinner downstairs.  During this time I thought I would look on Planning Center – an app for my iPhone that has service plans for a church service – and my husband and I were leading worship the next morning – and sadly I had not entered the songs in yet.  I thought – I can do this right now while we wait!

I had not counted on the DJ (remember the smiley and happy guy that greeted me as I climbed the stairs?) playing 70’s music (the hard stuff) REALLY LOUD.  I normally love 70’s music and I’m so-so tolerant of loud music – if I don’t have to concentrate on a task – but it was impossible with loud music BLARING.  There was only that one room to wait in.  The only rooms downstairs were the restaurant and the little store.  I knew I would have to get out of there – our truck in the parking lot was not an option due to the limited WIFI range.  I was NOT in a good mood – I had a mission to complete – and this guy WAS NOT helping me.  So I told Greg – I’m going downstairs – this is ridiculous!  Grabbed my purse and iPhone and moved quickly to find the stairs – right by the smiley DJ guy.

Now at this moment in time – I remember exactly what I was thinking.  And it WAS NOT nice.  I was horribly inconvenienced.  My head was POUNDING.  The music was BLARING in my ears as I walked closer to the stairs where the HUGE speakers were located.  It took every ounce of self-control in me – NOT to scream at that man – or at least voice my displeasure at his insensitivity to MY needs!  I mean – COME ON – doesn’t he care that it’s this loud stuff that can give me an unbelievable headache?  Doesn’t he care?

But I checked myself – and walked down the stairs saying nothing.  But I probably didn’t smile back at him – I don’t remember.  Boy was I mad.  Downstairs there was NO WIFI so I couldn’t complete my task without going back upstairs and I was determined NOT TO.  So I stayed down and waited it out for a little while – what seemed like forever – my feet were killing me and I needed to go find a place to sit.  So I went back upstairs – greeted by the smiley couple and stuck it out – until it was time for dinner.

Now here’s the really interesting part – and the most humbling for me.  We had name tags every one of us – assigned to a table.  Greg and I found our names at a cute little table by the window and had NO IDEA who the mystery people were that would be sitting directly in front of us – the table was very small – and it would be necessary to get really cozy with the other people sitting there.  No one came.  We thought we would be at the table alone.  And then it happened.  The smiley DJ and the pretty young woman with the pink hair – walked over to our table – they were our table mates.  They were friendly, courteous and fascinating – telling us story after story about their very fast paced lives – and during the meal I felt like we had made some friends.  They were half the age of Greg and me and it didn’t seem to matter.  We found common ground with music and sharing our lives and experiences.  I’m so glad they didn’t know how mad I was earlier – that would have been – well – can you say – AWKWARD?  I know that instead of making friends that day – my behavior and attitude would have been such a turn off to this young couple – our conversation would have been strained and I would have been humiliated.  Not exactly the example of Christ in my life, right?  Sometimes it’s just better to hold in.

Boy am I EVER GLAD I had learned early on in my life – okay – in more recent years to SHUT UP.  It is not always what I have done – but when I’ve had many things go sideways in my life because of my BIG MOUTH – I always think twice – when it would be the easiest thing in the world to just LET THEM HAVE IT!

When was the last time you kept your big mouth shut?  When was the last time you didn’t?

God Bless

A Wedding At Sunset

Today at sunset my husband Greg performed a wedding. It was one of the most picturesque places for a wedding – the beautiful Puget Sound.

Enjoy!

A Thanksgiving Wedding

Yesterday instead of Turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy – and tons of other food – we decided to abstain.

Unheard of, you say?

Well – there was a very good reason.  Greg was invited to perform a wedding – and I went with him.  It was a very different way to spend Thanksgiving.  But we all know that variety is the “spice of life” – so we jumped at the opportunity to be different.

This wedding was very special.  The couple had met online – she has a two year old daughter – and they are very much in love and ready to settle down and be a “family”.  The bride’s father is a doctor – and the house is situated on the water with a million dollar view of puget sound.  A very lovely home for having a wedding.

Our daughter arrived before we did – she styled the bride’s hair – and it was beautiful!  We arrived right on time – the traffic was HORRIBLE.  But with our coffee in hand we were “happy campers” as we SAT and SAT in traffic.  When we got there – everyone was munching on snacks – elegantly laid out in the “great room” below.  The high cathedral ceiling and HUGE windows overlooking the water – was very picturesque – and a lovely backdrop for the ceremony.  I took many pictures – I posted a few below.

After the ceremony – everyone remarked to Greg that they appreciated him being so authentic and real – in telling the couple how it really is – not “sugar coating” it.  People need to hear this today – and we all know the statistics – one out of every two marriages will fail – it is important to do everything you can when you start out – to make sure you understand there are going to be good times – and bad times.  And at some point you may not “feel it” anymore – that’s when you need to remember what you sometimes forget – that you made a commitment on this day – and a promise for life.  Life can and will sometimes go “sideways” – and if you are not prepared for it – it can rock your world and blow even the strongest marriage to bits.

The mother of the bride – married 37 years – was challenged by  Greg’s words and could testify to the fact that sometimes it is that commitment that you need to remember when life has its challenges and stresses.  She was cute when she said, “It was good to be reminded – sometimes you just have to say – Oh that’s right!  I almost forgot”  This is why it’s good to go to a wedding once in a while.

Now I understand that there are extreme circumstances that cannot be reconciled in a marriage – abuse – physical and mental – and by staying with that partner you could be putting your life and your children’s lives in danger.  This is understandable and cannot be ignored – nor should the party that has to leave feel guilty or allow others to make you feel that way.  God is a loving and forgiving God – and I am a firm believer in “second chances” for those that have been involved in a bad first marriage.

But for the rest of us – here is my challenge today:  Remember those vows and commitment you made on that wedding day many years ago.  What God has blessed then – He will continue to bless – and it will repeat through your children and their children too.  Sometimes we just “forget”.  We need a gentle reminder – like a wedding.

 

God Bless

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